Projection

When we feel that people are rejecting us, we need to look at why we feel that.  People may not like our ideas or perceptions, so that is taken very personally.  We can get angry, defensive, hurt, or even go on the attack...in our mind we are righting a wrong, but no wrong exists.  We are projecting our hurts onto others.

People disagree all the time, but when we cannot accept that, its then taken as rejection.  We need to look at the depth of where this feeling of rejection comes from and find its root.  However.....

.....if our lifestyle is debaucherous, criminal, unethical, unfair, non-commital, uncaring, gross, or even unBiblical, then we can expect far more rejection.  There are far fewer people in this world who can't even handle the thought of a lifestyle like that, let alone have you exhibit it publically.

Self-help groups like Celebrate Recovery & Life's Healing Choices allow us to understand that the cause of rejection is problably because of our lifestyle and how we project that onto others unfairly.

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Offense

What we view as an offense towards us is really based on how we live our lives.

 When we are living in a state of heightened confusion or are knowingly living a life of sin, we tend to be over the top with our emotions. A single word can throw us into rage, drive us to addiction, or be physically and verbally abusive.  We can't think straight and it appears to us that the world is literally against us, and God is crushing us with His thumb & enjoying it

 

In reality, we simply are not with the Lord!  We haven't released our control to Him, we continue to live a sinful life, or we are harboring resentment of some kind.  If we hang on to hurts, then we assume the responsibility of allll... the little demons that go along with it!!  That becomes overwhelming in itself and that's what breaks us!!

 

Self-help groups like Celebrate Recovery & Life's Healing Choices teach us that we must let go of emotions and situations that involve others, and just give it to Jesus.

 

 

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Excuses

They give us strength, relief, happiness, & peace!!  Only problem is that it is short term joy and quickly dwindles once the moment is gone.  It's like being intoxicated or getting high, once it wears off all that's left is the pain.  People know what we are doing in our secrecy, but we believe that this excuse is the best one ever, "after all I would believe it if someone told that to me", we tell ourself.

Ocassionally, we forget how many times we've used those same excuses and when we keep repeating them, others chuckle under their breath while they watch the show we are putting on.  In our mind we are masterful actors winning the sympathy of all.  But in their minds we are a pitiful mess, and we by the way, are real bad actors.  Try telling the truth and say, "no I want to use".  (Or whatever your vice is.)  At least others will then have to respect you for being truthful.

Self Help groups like Celebrate Recovery & Life's Healing Choices show us what we really look like to others.

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Compromise

When we know what is right and we compromise that in our minds in order to indulge in something we know is wrong, then we are giving the power that God has given us, away  to the devil.  The wrestling match between our carnal wants and what we know is right should always be the first thought in our mind.  But unfortunately, we tend to think the rest of the world is oblivious to our actions, when in reality someone always see's what we are doing wrong, they just don't confront us with it.

The Bible tells us that God is "all knowing & see's all", yet like an Ostrich with their head in the sand, we tend to feel that if we can't see in the dark, then no-one can.  Only one problem with that thinking. . . . God is light and in Him there is no darkness!!  Doh!!

Self-help groups like Celebrate Recovery & Life's Healing Choices help to acknowledge the lies we tell ourselves and others, and to realize the damage inflicted by our own compromises.

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Repetition

I'm told that; "in business you are only as good as the last job you did".  Doesn't that ring true with us individually as well?  If we are known as a drug dealer, thief, liar, prostitute, alcoholic, bulimic, or any other of the hundreds of hang-ups, then it's really hard to try to convince others differently.

If our actions even hint that we still speak or act the way we used to, then our task becomes much harder to convince others that we have indeed changed.  Repeating bad behaviour simply causes others to repeat their suspicions of us.  Repeating good behaviour confuses those who know us "the way we used to be", and starts to crack the image they once held of us, until hopefully a new trust in us is revealed.

Self-help groups like Celebrate Recovery & Life's Healing Choices give us the support we need to step out of our old ways of thinking and the courage to successfully continue through life's difficulties.

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Motivation

We only get into trouble when our motivations are wrong.  We may recieve wrongful judgements from people who don't know us or who are just cruel, or people just refuse to believe us when we truly are innocent. The Lord says that we should rejoice in that sort of behavior.

But when we choose things that have ulterior motives, or use slight of hand to manipulate people or situations to our favor, is when trouble starts brewing.  If we don't come clean with our misguided thinking, then people will start to look at us through the corner of their eyes in suspiscion.  This is the change in our relationships with others, the collapse of innocence for both parties. 

Self-help groups like Celebrate Recovery & Life's Healing Choices show us that this is a travesty for living free in the spirit of God, because we always have something to hide....as small as it may be.

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Grudge

The dictionary says: "submit unwillingly".  This in itself isn't such a problem as we have to do this on a regular basis, as does everyone.  Another definition is "to carry ill will".  This is where the addiction part of life rules.  The Bible says if we allow one sin to run free in our lifestyle, then much worse is to follow.

Unresolved feelings will drag you down to a place where anything the Bible says about "just treatment" gets ignored.  A lower level of religion in it's finest supports rule breaking, lying, gossip, treachery, and a muriad of other forms of malice.  In Jesus' case it was the Pharasees who premeditated His murder.

The root of all this is pride, because if we had no pride then none of this would matter and life would carry on unruffled.  The bigger problem is we can fall into this same behavior because we choose to ignorantly sympathize with the perpetrator rather than study the Word of God to find the answer!!

Self-help groups like Celebrate Recovery & Life's Healing Choices show us what avenues our debaucherous thinking takes us, to get us started and then locked into our addictions.

 

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