Getting Even

We've all done things to others that gets them into a riled state, and they've responded in kind by getting even with us.  To hurt us so we know not to mess with them in the future.  Maybe you've gotten even with someone because of something they did to you.  An "eye for and eye" kind of thinking.

What if it was an accident?  What if the person doesn't even know they did something wrong or its a vicious rumor and we get even with them anyway?  The whole problem with this thinking is that we are supposed to go to the person first and bring their transgression to their attention.  If they refuse to acknowledge or make good their mistake then the "eye for an eye" rule takes place.  Society has forgotten to "speak to the person who wronged you first and work it out".

Self-help groups like Celebrate Recovery & Life's Healing Choices teach us to get over our anger and start a meaningful conversation with someone no matter what they've done or we have perpetrated.

PS: (by the way, getting even is a short term fix for us much like any other disorder.  It's the opposite of forgiveness)

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