Fear

When you don't know whats' coming next, when you see a facade that looks soo threatening standing in front of you, when others you love and admire are in trouble of some sort, those are some of the times when we experience the greatest amount fear.

So when we hear statements like "Fear the Lord", what goes through your head?  When I was 10 or 12 years old I always thought to myself, "Why do I need to fear Him".  He is a loving God!  So I was confused.  But over the years I've come to realize that if people are living a questionable lifestyle then that fear is a very present factor in their lives and something I've experienced personally.

Deuteronomy 6:13 Fear the Lord your God, serve him only and take your oaths in his name.

So what I've learned is that that "Fear" we are talking about for me personally, is that I fear not doing His will, so I fear the outcome of my wayward thinking and I fear how that will affect my relationship with God.

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Living in the Spirit

It's a hard thing to try and see if your own walk with the Lord is the way it should be.  It's hard to look at yourself when you're always looking away from yourself.  This requires some serious reflection time, a time when nothing else matters except your relationship with God.

God requires that time too, so that He can download what He needs you to hear, the places He needs you to go, and the next task He has for you.  We may be completely unaware of that download and will only realize that it happened when we are in that unusual place and something miraculous happens.  Something that we could have never orchestrated on our own.

1 Corinthians 2:13  This is what we speak, not in words taught us by human wisdom but in words taught by the Spirit, explaining spiritual realities with Spirit-taught words.

This is when we are speechless, when we see miraculous events taking place around us but have no control over it or input to make it happen.  That's called living in the spirit.

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Responsibility

What is our responsibility as individuals in our neighborhood and greater community?  Why are we faced with so many challenges in life?  Why does life appear to be so difficult and unpredictable?

No easy answers to some serious questions.  But here's a thought, why not focus on other things rather than the negative things that seem to consume our thinking and energy?  In all actuality that's what we are supposed to do.

Philippians 4:8  Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.

Why waste your time thinking and worrying about garbage most of which you can't do anything about anyway?  Focusing on junk like that can very easily drag you into compulsive and addictive behaviours.  So lets think about things that will help change one of those negatives and gradually others will join in with you...as long as you don't quit in the meantime.

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Memories

Every memorable event in our life is capable of building a beautiful picture book that we can feel good about as we peruse through our past, as long as the events were worthy of a pleasant memory.  But not all memories are pleasant, some are injurious enough to leave scars on your soul, some are so damaging to you that you wind up repeating those injuries on others.

Mark 7:6  "These people honor me with their lips, but their hearts are far from me".

When you allow bad memories from the past to control your actions today, then Mark 7:6 applies to you.  Twisting the word of God can keep you frozen in a compulsive or addictive pattern that is very hard to break.  

Not reading and studying the Bible is an open ticket to absolutely anything you want, except God's saving Grace.  

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Calling

Most people these days are furthest from spiritual teaching and for the most part lack any real direction in their life.  Oh they know their career choices and retirement needs or their next meal, but spiritually they are dead.  They buy a wooden thing or hang a picture on the wall of an ideology and claim that is their belief system, but truly lack any depth or meaning.

Luke 10:42  "but few things are needed - or indeed only one.  Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken from her.” 

 But 2 verses earlier Martha says, “Lord, don’t you care that my sister has left me to do the work by myself? Tell her to help me!”

Mary was absolutely taken by Jesus' teachings and couldn't get enough, whereas Martha was so overwhelmed with protocol that she couldn't stand taking the time to hear Jesus until the deeds were done.   Isn't that like us with our spiritual life most of the time, only talking to God when we are hurt or want something or when we have time? 

Mary realized the urgency in getting that teaching while she could and craved something better in life, while Martha was burdened with obligation and political correctness.

Let me ask this question; if Jesus came to your house only once, would you spend your time trying to please Him through service to Him, or please Him with your undivided adoration towards Him?  It's a difficult mix to find the balance between service and adoration.

Basically, are you the prize or is He?

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Petri Dish

What is the purpose of us being on this planet? Why are we supposed to live a law biding life and always follow the rules?  Why can't we just do what makes us feel good and forget about everyone else?  Lets look at life in a Petri Dish for a moment.  Mold and bacteria grow in there because there is something to feed on, and there's enough sweetener or Agar in the dish to allow the micro organisms to flourish.  When the sweetener is gone the organisms die.

That's not the kind of people God wants in Heaven, one's that only feed on sweetener.  God wants people that can flourish on the word of God without the sweeteners, the one's with bravery to withstand the world's taunts for choosing what is right later instead of cheap immediate sweeteners.

Matthew 5:19  Therefore anyone who sets aside one of the least of these commands and teaches others accordingly will be called least in the kingdom of heaven, but whoever practices and teaches these commands will be called great in the kingdom of heaven.

You can blindly fall for the fake worldly sweeteners RIGHT NOW and get nothing later, or you can wait for the best Heavenly sweeteners you could ever imagine when you finally meet God IN HEAVEN.

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Protection

We all have grievances and misunderstandings, hurt feelings and heartaches.  That is the way of this world!  The more important question is; what is it we are doing to create those abnormalities and how do we go about correcting that unjust thinking in us and others?  

First off, it is impossible to live in a society and not offend someone at sometime!

Secondly, we can't control what others think about us so all we can do is approach them with the spirit of love and respect.  If they'll let us, we can present our concerns and hopefully alter the way they think about us by giving them a vulnerable piece of us.  It doesn't have to be a juicy tidbit rather  just sharing their effects on us.  If that person has deeper emotional concerns and uses that information against you, then the problem remains, but you are free from condemnation because you tried to correct it!  God likes that!

Prov 2:11  Discretion will protect you, and understanding will guard you.

Praying to God first is a way to let God work in other peoples hearts so that when you approach them they have already been thinking about it and the response is usually more receptive or they will avoid you completely due to overwhelming guilt.  Either way, if you spend time praying for others and trying to mend bridges, you have won God's heart.  God protects those who love Him.

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Projection

We all have a past that can haunt us if we let it, but there's another side to this where we can become so over confident because we think we know it all because of what we went through to the point of projecting our biased opinions on others.  This can happen with a traumatic event, our job, raising a family, or anything we become very proficient at.

Projection is the belief that because of what we experienced, then we are the ruling authority.  This may be true but we can unknowingly project all those beliefs on others, even when it doesn't fit the situation surrounding that person.

Hebrews 10:22   let us draw near to God with a sincere heart and with the full assurance that faith brings, having our hearts sprinkled to cleanse us from a guilty conscience and having our bodies washed with pure water.

This is how False Profits start, but the bigger concern is that we are still sinning by judging others through our own hurts.  All this means is that we haven't let go of our past and haven't accepted the forgiveness that God has granted us.

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Sorrow

If you think about it, sorrow is really only in our mind.  Other people have sorrowful situations that don't really affect us, particularly if we aren't aware of them or their problems.  The only time other peoples sorrow effects us is when we are personally connected to them in some fashion.   We are sorrowful when things don't work out the way we planned which is regret, as well, we hurt when people we love are hurt which is sorrow!  Regret is internal and sorrow should be external!

A two edged sword is sorrow!  The worlds interpretation with no God in it is sooo focused on self that sorrow can overtake us if we are ignorant to its effects.  Our sorrow can be from things we have done or we let others do to us.  The only way we can keep sorrow from consuming us is to face it head on and put it in perspective.  The Bible is clear on how to do that.

2 Corinthians 7:10  "Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret, but worldly sorrow brings death."

That makes it pretty clear!  Empathy for others aside, personal sorrow is a weakness in our thinking and regret means we are aware of it.

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Consistency

Being consistent in our thoughts and actions can be a challenge with our life the way it is right now.  Not knowing that consistency is an important building block in a person's life is one thing, but when you mix shady or questionable behaviour with that confusion, then all hell breaks loose.  There's suddenly no standard, every day is a new concoction of other people's control over our life.  Addictive and compulsive behaviours start and can completely control us .  Then every unstable thing you do becomes your new personality, and people question your validity.

Colossians 1:21  Once you were alienated from God and were enemies in your minds because of your evil behavior. ²² But now he has reconciled you by Christ’s physical body through death to present you holy in his sight, without blemish and free from accusation— ²³ if you continue in your faith, established and firm, and do not move from the hope held out in the gospel.

When you give your life and all it's quandaries over to Jesus Christ, He sorts out the trash from you and your most valuable attributes.  Our mind is washed clean of our past and He polishes our best features.  Now the biggest concern is for us to avoid the detriments of the past and stay grounded in the word of God.

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Rebellion

Causes us to be taken captive by the negative things we let into our life.  Why do we keep having problems in our life over and over again?  Without God, we have to willfully not do the crazy things we do and constantly fall back into it.  With God's help we give it away and He takes it from us...buuttt... occasionally we choose to go back to the filth we left.  We are supposed to live guilt free once He takes our sinful behaviours away.

Ezekiel 21:24   “Therefore this is what the Sovereign Lord says: ‘Because you people have brought to mind your guilt by your open rebellion, revealing your sins in all that you do—because you have done this, you will be taken captive.

Captive by our habits and others who are stronger in their sins than we are in our resistance of it.  That's why we need God in our life. 

Think about how small our stupid habit would look to God who created the world!

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Fruitless

Knowing that we should be clearing out the destructive idols, habits, and thoughts in our life, and not doing it are basically slapping God in the face. Each of us cannot deny that we are prompted consistently to live an upright Godly life.  That some of the things we are doing, we know are wrong, but we do them anyway.  We may even trick ourself into feeling good about our erroneous decisions saying, "I did it my way".   This is fruitless and will not last!

Ephesians 5:11 Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose them.

What will happen when it all comes down to the decisions you make on a moment by moment basis?  If you can't see it already, this world is coming to an end!  We will each be held accountable for every decision we made, for every questionable action we committed, and for every person we led astray by ignoring those promptings. 

We don't know the time or the hour when we will face our life of questionable choices, but the time is coming, so give your life to Jesus Christ now.

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Flesh

Not the kind we have on our body, but rather a way of thinking.  When a person is deep in their addiction or compulsive behaviour, this is called living in the flesh.  Our mind is totally controlled by our repetitive actions, and the furthest thing from our thinking is God and His plan for our life.

Roman's 8:7 The mind governed by the flesh is hostile to God; it does not submit to God’s law, nor can it do so.

We think we are free living under our curse because we get to do what we want, but in reality we know that we are trapped in a hell-hole of despair, hurt, and lies.  We lie to others & ourself saying "it's not that bad", but deep down we are sickened by our plight.

The other option is giving your life to Jesus Christ, secretly praying, asking Him into your heart and allowing Him to clean you up.  May have to follow a few rules but it is infinitely better than the way you are now.  After a while you will find that your old lifestyle will start to make you sick just thinking about it.

Try it and see for yourself!  No one needs to know, it's just between you and Jesus.

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Stumble

Everyone trips up at some point, makes huge mistakes, or goes against wise council.  We then have to pay the price!!  This is especially true with compulsive or addictive behaviors. Slipping back into questionable habits and relationships.  We need to separate ourself from addictive behaviors first.

When you put the trust of your life in the hands of someone who genuinely cares about you, and wants the absolute best for you, life becomes far easier to live.  Just think, if you knew someone like that how relieved you would be.  Someone who could basically snap their fingers and your problems would go away, or at the very least turn your problems into something so small that you forget about them.  His name is Jesus Christ and He is willing to do that for everyone who comes to Him...yes even the worst offenders.

Psalm 37:23-24 The Lord makes firm the steps of the one who delights in Him; ²⁴ though he may stumble, he will not fall, for the Lord upholds him with his hand.

Ask Jesus into your life to lead you.  Try it...I dare you!

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The Principle

Not everyone likes you!  It's hard to take a statement like that if you are continually doing things to try to win people over to accept you.  It's an addictive behaviour that stems from abandonment, or some other childhood detriment, one that's never really been dealt with.  So when we are rejected, then falling back into our choice of poison in life, is easy.  Repeated rejection sets in place the blueprint for our life.  Repeated picking up our bad habit is; just a bad habit of picking up the habit.

Once you realize that some people will accept you, others won't, and still others just don't care because they have enough on their plate, then you can start to expose the root of addiction.

Matthew 21:42 Jesus said to them, “Have you never read in the Scriptures: “‘The stone the builders rejected has become the cornerstone; the Lord has done this, and it is marvelous in our eyes’?

The principle should be; give all your worries to Jesus Christ and stop worshipping the idol of your addiction!  In the long run it doesn't matter if people like you or not, but rather if you trust God.

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Action

You can tell when someone has finally decided to stop a life of addictive and compulsive behaviours, of lying, cheating, stealing, drug and alcohol use.  Their demeanor changes, the facial expressions are softer, verbage is not so demonic, and they are absent from the usual places you would find them.

You can say through your own determination that you are done with that lifestyle, but it's always in your view and you're are always on edge.  It shows in your brow, words, and your actions, that it is ever so close to you still.  Fighting that behaviour with all your might!! 

James 2:17  "In the same way, faith by itself, if it is not accompanied by action, is dead".

There is an easier way.  Truly releasing that lifestyle and being free from the magnetic draw of its attraction can be easy, but only if you release your control over life.  Think back to a time when you were stressed about a task and someone with knowledge about it came and did it for you, and how relieved you were after.

Giving your life to Jesus is just like that, except He will fix your problems for you, if you choose to turn away from them.

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Oppression

People try to be more important than everyone else.  It's not really greed, it's more like envy or fear.  People with a strong demeanor who are weaker in communication skills can oppress others very easily and they may not even know why themselves. 

The mind gets excited when it receives a Dopamine shot from our metabolism and this happens when we achieve something.  Like athletes or actors, or when everyone applauds you for a job well done.  That shot basically affirms who we are and what we do.  Problem is, people can become addicted to it.  That's when we need to stand up for ourselves to stop their Dopamine fix at our expense.

Titus 2:15 "These, then, are the things you should teach. Encourage and rebuke with all authority. Do not let anyone despise you."

That's what Jesus did!  He didn't let anyone trample on Him or talk down to Him.  He stood His ground in the face of adversity all while respecting His opponents.  Mind you He is God incarnate and has all the answers, but it is a beautiful example of what we can do simply by following Jesus' teachings.  And stopping oppression against us.

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Tongue

Ever lied, said something harsh or vindictive and then wondered why you said it?  You're not alone.  It is a common affliction among all nationalities, men, women, children, young, or old.  It results from a stressful loose connection with the heart and mind, and the tongue is the vent to relieve the internal pressure.

The heart & mind in their natural state are carnal, simply storage devices.  Our families and society train our hearts and minds up to the way things are done around us.  We adopt that and basically we know no other way!  When we interact with others, read books, find spiritual influence in things, we start to see a different path. 

James 3:7-8 All kinds of animals, birds, reptiles and sea creatures are being tamed and have been tamed by mankind, ⁸ but no human being can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison.

Through hardship that we bring on ourself, we learn to control the tongue, but more importantly, bond the heart and mind together so the tongue becomes under our full control.  Discuss this with Jesus Christ to find out how!

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Craving

садржај   It can cause us to let down our guard & wander away from sound thinking into an experiential type of lifestyle.  Experiencing things is good and not wrong by any means, but what I'm talking about is what will entrap us.  Our conscience is our guide.  If we give into one questionable way of life, then the rest are now acceptable all because we did not heed the warnings in the Bible.

Psalms 106:14  In the desert they gave in to their craving; in the wilderness they put God to the test.

It goes on to tell us that they made a golden calf for worship, fell to disease, were rebellious, and finally swallowed up by the earth!  Uncontrolled cravings lead to lust, the perfect setting for an addiction or compulsive behaviour.  It all starts with complaining, envy, lust, greed, and a false sense of entitlement.

We have to remember that we are where we are because God lead us there to grow us, or we forced God's hand and he gave us the desires of our heart!  Either way we are meant to be content where we are.  Read the warnings, take everything to God, and wait for His timing.

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Compulsive Behaviour

예수 What does that even mean?  There's a fine line between psychological and spiritual interpretations.  The old adage: "if you love something then set it free, if it comes back then it is yours, if it doesn't then it never was".  Showing a true undying love for something is different than Compulsive Behaviour. 

Undying love means you want the best for it and will be willing to set it free for the betterment of the thing you love.

Compulsive behaviour usually needs to entrap the thing you love for the betterment of yourself.

It's all motive driven based on our upbringing. We only do what we know and won't do anything different until we learn how to do it.

Romans 8:5  Those who live according to the flesh have their minds set on what the flesh desires; but those who live in accordance with the Spirit have their minds set on what the Spirit desires.

So its the difference between receiving a gift versus lusting after it.

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