Fool

The Bible is pretty strong when it talks about that;  Matthew 5:22, "And anyone who says, ‘You fool!’ will be in danger of the fire of hell."
When was the last time you were treated like one?  Your response reveals pride or wisdom.
When was the last time you felt like one? Your response reveals pride or wisdom.
When was the last time you called someone that?  Your response reveals pride or wisdom.
Ecclesiastes 7:9 Do not be quickly provoked in your spirit, for anger resides in the lap of fools.
Fool seems like a very simple word but the connotations that it presents are damning for yourself and an outright curse to others.  Apparently God doesn't like that. 

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Living in the Spirit

It's a hard thing to try and see if your own walk with the Lord is the way it should be.  It's hard to look at yourself when you're always looking away from yourself.  This requires some serious reflection time, a time when nothing else matters except your relationship with God.

God requires that time too, so that He can download what He needs you to hear, the places He needs you to go, and the next task He has for you.  We may be completely unaware of that download and will only realize that it happened when we are in that unusual place and something miraculous happens.  Something that we could have never orchestrated on our own.

1 Corinthians 2:13  This is what we speak, not in words taught us by human wisdom but in words taught by the Spirit, explaining spiritual realities with Spirit-taught words.

This is when we are speechless, when we see miraculous events taking place around us but have no control over it or input to make it happen.  That's called living in the spirit.

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Trickery

Have you ever been forced into a tricky situation where you have no options but to do the evil plots presented to you?  It's either do it or face the consequences and the consequences are dire.  What would you do?  Would you give in under the pressure, would you try and negotiate a way out?  Would you run or fight back?

Those are not easy answers to some tough questions especially if you are trapped in a place where you will lose everything.  We can all say that we would stand up for ourself if it has never happened to us, but would we really?

These are the trials in life that can lead to compulsive and addictive behaviours.  These are the sticky situations that can just be enough to allow us to break down and fall into a bad habit.  Keeping your faith is the only thing you can do when nothing else seems like its going to work out.

James 1:12 Blessed is the one who perseveres under trial because, having stood the test, that person will receive the crown of life that the Lord has promised to those who love him.

This is the other alternative to falling into a substance abuse problem.

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Memories

Every memorable event in our life is capable of building a beautiful picture book that we can feel good about as we peruse through our past, as long as the events were worthy of a pleasant memory.  But not all memories are pleasant, some are injurious enough to leave scars on your soul, some are so damaging to you that you wind up repeating those injuries on others.

Mark 7:6  "These people honor me with their lips, but their hearts are far from me".

When you allow bad memories from the past to control your actions today, then Mark 7:6 applies to you.  Twisting the word of God can keep you frozen in a compulsive or addictive pattern that is very hard to break.  

Not reading and studying the Bible is an open ticket to absolutely anything you want, except God's saving Grace.  

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Consistent

It's nice to know that when you are experiencing hard times and you turn around to see someone who has your back, someone you never knew was there but was brushing aside deceitful work raged against you and stamping out flaming arrows aimed at your back.  Someone who consistently has your better interests in focus and can see your future and knows the full plan for your life.

Psalm 5:11  But let all who take refuge in you be glad; let them ever sing for joy. Spread your protection over them, that those who love your name may rejoice in you.

When you are living a pure and clean life and show your commitment to God and then put your complete trust in that premise, it releases you to do your best work.  Just knowing that expands your thinking capacity because now you don't have to worry about anything except what your good at. 

It's true: your creativity, freedom of thought, and your love of God all expand with the more He gives you.

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Recompense

Life can be tough some times, heartaches, rogue emotions in us and others, even acts of harm against us, for no reason.  People scoff at that like I did, but the reality is that when you avoid someone because their lifestyle no longer fits in with your new life based on the teachings of Jesus Christ, they can become very offended.  You still respect them but they cannot handle it with you living a clean life and them still struggling and being overwhelmed with their sin life.  If only they would realize that complete surrender to Jesus is the only way.

Proverbs 12:21 No harm overtakes the righteous, but the wicked have their fill of trouble. 

No matter what they say about you or do to you, you always have the relationship with Jesus, as long as you don't slide back into that old lifestyle.  Sharing Jesus' teachings with them works, but if their guilt is greater than their will to come clean then the carnage in their life becomes greater and unfortunately they can take that out on you.  

Their anguish is probably heightened when we continue to display the peace and joy awarded us through Jesus Christ, a perk when you have a personal relationship with Him.

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Protection

We all have grievances and misunderstandings, hurt feelings and heartaches.  That is the way of this world!  The more important question is; what is it we are doing to create those abnormalities and how do we go about correcting that unjust thinking in us and others?  

First off, it is impossible to live in a society and not offend someone at sometime!

Secondly, we can't control what others think about us so all we can do is approach them with the spirit of love and respect.  If they'll let us, we can present our concerns and hopefully alter the way they think about us by giving them a vulnerable piece of us.  It doesn't have to be a juicy tidbit rather  just sharing their effects on us.  If that person has deeper emotional concerns and uses that information against you, then the problem remains, but you are free from condemnation because you tried to correct it!  God likes that!

Prov 2:11  Discretion will protect you, and understanding will guard you.

Praying to God first is a way to let God work in other peoples hearts so that when you approach them they have already been thinking about it and the response is usually more receptive or they will avoid you completely due to overwhelming guilt.  Either way, if you spend time praying for others and trying to mend bridges, you have won God's heart.  God protects those who love Him.

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Sorrow

If you think about it, sorrow is really only in our mind.  Other people have sorrowful situations that don't really affect us, particularly if we aren't aware of them or their problems.  The only time other peoples sorrow effects us is when we are personally connected to them in some fashion.   We are sorrowful when things don't work out the way we planned which is regret, as well, we hurt when people we love are hurt which is sorrow!  Regret is internal and sorrow should be external!

A two edged sword is sorrow!  The worlds interpretation with no God in it is sooo focused on self that sorrow can overtake us if we are ignorant to its effects.  Our sorrow can be from things we have done or we let others do to us.  The only way we can keep sorrow from consuming us is to face it head on and put it in perspective.  The Bible is clear on how to do that.

2 Corinthians 7:10  "Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret, but worldly sorrow brings death."

That makes it pretty clear!  Empathy for others aside, personal sorrow is a weakness in our thinking and regret means we are aware of it.

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Conduct

Poor conduct is lying, stealing, revenge, infidelity, dishonesty, neglect, gossip, sloth, injustice, self hatred, and many more!  By incorporating these in your daily thought life & activities, you are worsening your final state.  Addictive & compulsive behaviours live in that group of traits.  The more of these you do, the less good you will be inspired to perform, and the less people want to be around you.

Psalm 112:5  Good will come to those who are generous and lend freely, who conduct their affairs with justice.

Living a life free of the above behaviours gives you more time to focus positively on the individuals in your life.  It gives you more rest, peace of mind, energy, and over all happiness.  People don't mind being around you because you make them feel good about themselves.

Chemically speaking, if you put acid into acid, it only becomes more acidic and damaging, and much harder to get rid of!

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Trickery

Being tricked does not feel good, but truth be told, every person with a bad habit, hang-up, or addiction, is being tricked daily, hourly, minute by minute.  That's what keeps you doing what you are doing.  If you hate your disorder then you are believing the lie that is keeping you there.

Maybe you don't believe you're worth anything, or you think your habit is actually good for you, or you can't see a way out, or you've given up trying, Jesus Christ thinks you are cool but just a bit messed up right now.  Whatever the reason you have, it is the perfect lie that you are continuing to believe.  God deals harshly with lies, but also heals those afflicted by them.

3 John 11  ".....Anyone who does what is evil has not seen God."

Making a physical choice to step out of your situation and step toward God is a solid first choice and a big one, especially if you can't trust anyone.  Despite what others say, God would much rather see you healed His way, rather than you to see you perish your way.

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Shamed

躕 Ever done something wrong and felt bad about it?  This is good!  It's when we have case-hardened our conscience so that we no longer feel any remorse for our actions that addictive and compulsive behaviours start.  When we blank out peoples feelings, ignore laws, lie to cover up our crimes, and assume the plunder from our victims is rightfully ours, is when we are closest to death. 

Question: If we live a life like that and were to die today then we have no way to try to repair the damage we have done.

GOD HAS A PROBLEM WITH PEOPLE WHO WON'T EVEN TRY!  But He abundantly blesses those that that do.

Romans 2:16  This will take place on the day when God judges people’s secrets through Jesus Christ, as my gospel declares.

The worst bout of shame would be to stand in front of God knowing you never even tried!

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Who Am I

Through time God speaks to us individually.  We may not believe it, hear it, or understand it, but if we had an inside view of what our life looks like to God, or even an outsiders view, then we could heal ourself from all emotional issues. Being healed from addictive and compulsive behaviours consists of nothing more than understanding what our problem is, who we are without the problem, and how to deal with the problem that never goes away.  We just need to learn how to control ourself around the problem. 

1 Peter 1:14 As obedient children, do not conform to the evil desires you had when you lived in ignorance.

Knowledge about these problems helps us to win over the problem.  We struggle without this knowledge but when we turn our life over to Christ a wonderful insight comes with it....knowing that we are a unique individual who simply has a problem and NOT a problem individual. 

Believe it or not...that is the gift of Christmas!!  Covering up our problems causes us to try to diminish Christmas all together!!

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Building Up

Its hard to find people that will actually spend the time to build you up.  Family and friends are one thing if you're lucky enough to have those types of people in your life, but in the outside world of our job, business, passersby, political, and world events it's very different.  Just look at the state of wars around the world, genocide, and general aggression.  Some people try to blame it on religion but its not that, its a natural state of decay from the beginnings of mankind. 

I guess that's why people look down on Christianity because at its core the difference is staggering from the way the world thinks. 

Ephesians 4:29  Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.

For thousands of years its been "Only one of us will be victorious".  But why??  The process of surrendering ourself to an unseen God goes against all military common sense.  The problem is; trying to get the whole world to think like that, when we've been trained to destroy.

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Religious

Setting a standard for others, but exempting our self when we in a different crowd.  In the Bible it's called hypocrisy!  When we are very religious when around the religious crowd but our real self when around the one's we don't go to church with.  Think back to when you lied to your parent or guardian thinking that you convinced them you weren't bad in a certain situation.  When you put on a glossier than real attitude around someone in authority.  When you swear, think poorly of someone, gossip, or verbally cheat someone.  Abuse others!!  Our tongue is a deadly weapon.

James 1:²⁶ Those who consider themselves religious and yet do not keep a tight rein on their tongues deceive themselves, and their religion is worthless.

This verse scared me when I first read it, or maybe it was the 5th time and it finally sunk in.  I believe God will ask us to clarify each and every instance of deception in our life.  So doing what this verse says right now will reduce the surprise we will have later.  And we won't wind up using our tongue as a weapon on our self!!

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Encouragement

Most of us don't receive that, some have never experienced it, and a multitude believe there is an ulterior motive behind it when we hear it. 

There are 2 kinds; genuine & false encouragement.  Tricks, lies, criticism, pride, revenge, and gaining the upper hand are usually the motives behind false encouragement.  But not everyone is like that!  There is a group in society that live according to the Bible's teachings and encourage those who are having a tough time with life's demands.  Getting those to believe that someone actually cares about them is another thing.  We usually don't believe it because we are frequently stung by it.  This creates feelings of hopelessness, an entry point for an addiction.

Hebrews 3:13 "But encourage one another daily, as long as it is called “Today,” so that none of you may be hardened by sin’s deceitfulness".

False encouragement is just deceit and the basis of greed.  Genuine encouragement is the basis of giving with nothing expected in return.

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False Religion

When we don't know about religious doctrines and groups that are presented to us.  If we don't study religions to find the truth and not just settle for the first group that comes along, then we are opening ourselves  up to blindly following something that may be our demise in the end.  Countless millions have done that before us and fell victim to dictators, lust, greed, and dissension.  The Bible tells us to study the Word of God and to not stop.  Religion of today is changing into what we "think and like", and paying no attention to accepting Jesus as our Savior. This opens us up to worshiping the body, plants, stars, people, objects, money, and psychological belief systems.

Colossians 2:²³ Such regulations indeed have an appearance of wisdom, with their self-imposed worship, their false humility and their harsh treatment of the body, but they lack any value in restraining sensual indulgence.

Sensuality has the largest group of followers today, but what people don't understand is that if you don't forget about the world's trappings right now and instead get to know Jesus today, then how will He recognize you when He returns to collect all those who believe in Him?  That's really the only reason Jesus is returning!

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Acceptance

What do we do in order to feel accepted?  First off, what is acceptance and why do we need it?  It's when someone gives you the same level of respect they would give to anyone else, no matter what you have done, your station in life, or what you look like.  It's a show of respect to treat others as you would like to be treated.

Coincidentally, that is what the Bible teaches in Luke 6:31 Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.  

When you don't treat others as you would like to be treated, then you are judging them and God says that you will be judged in the same way you treat others.  It's mostly because we don't understand that persons way of thinking and our arrogance or uncaring spirit is preventing us from NOT forcing them to our way of thinking.

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Grace

 Grace is the act of releasing someone from judgement.  It's the motion of turning the other cheek, forgiving those that have hurt us, and giving others a another chance.  When we don't do any of those things then that person is held in bondage.  Jesus said in Matthew 18:18, “Truly I tell you, whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven". What that means is how we judge others, the same judgement will be used on us.

The judgements and stumbling blocks we create for others will undoubtedly come back to haunt us based on the above statement.

Romans 14:13 Therefore let us stop passing judgment on one another. Instead, make up your mind not to put any stumbling block or obstacle in the way of a brother or sister.

 Isn't life difficult enough? 

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Patiently Waiting

We know that when we are standing in front of God that our entire life will flash before us, we will be held accountable for everything we have said and done, be they good or bad.  Everyone on earth will be standing there whether they believe in God or not.  Wouldn't it be nice if all we saw was the good things we had said and done?  The words "well done good and faithful servant".

There is a way for that to happen and it is to confess our sins right now, here on earth.  Sharing our troublesome and sorrowful tales with someone you trust and admitting our wrongs to God.  If we take the time to do this now then God won't have to force us to do it while standing in front of Him.

The time of patiently waiting is over, now is the time to confess our sins and accept Jesus Christ, because Jesus will tell God what a good job we have done on earth....or NOT.

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Passion

What does the military and the passion of Jesus have in common?  The military has a standing rule to not leave anyone behind, to collect the wounded and bring them to safety. To stand as a united force.

Jesus sacrifice on the cross has the same principals, to not leave anyone behind, to collect the wounded and bring them to the safety of God.

The injuries may be different but the principal remains the same as the military fights visible forces and the gospel fights the unseen forces of demons and principalities.

We all have our own visible and unseen battles that test us to the limit.  Darkness may rule for a short time but our passion to believe in an ever loving God helps us win in the end.

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