Released

Jesus opened the prison doors and let you out, but a lot of times we just don't feel the love as a result of that, so we contain ourselves where we are the strongest, and that is usually back where we are the most vulnerable.

Questionable behavior sprouts out of what we plant.  If we are given grape seeds and throw them away in favor of planting thistles, then this is a replica of our life.  The grape seeds are anything to do with the Word of God and the thistles are anything to do with the world.

Matthew 7:16  By their fruit you will recognize them. Do people pick grapes from thorn bushes, or figs from thistles?

Thistles may have beautiful flowers but you have to approach them carefully, whereas grape vines are very approachable and the fruit is very nourishing.   When we lock ourselves back up in our selfish thinking then we are telling Jesus that what He did for us just doesn't matter.  So we lose out out on a magnificent gift.  

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Graceless

What is the purpose of us being on this planet? Why are we supposed to live a law biding life and always follow the rules?  Why can't we just do what makes us feel good and forget about everyone else?  Lets look at life in a Petri Dish for a moment.  Mold and bacteria grow in there because there is something to feed on, and there's enough sweetener or Agar in the dish to allow the micro organisms to flourish.  When the sweetener is gone the organisms die.

Our spiritual life can be just like that too!   We can take on these sweeteners that seem to make us a better person and spiritual person, but in the long run they are spiritual anchors.

Matthew 5:19  Therefore anyone who sets aside one of the least of these commands and teaches others accordingly will be called least in the kingdom of heaven, but whoever practices and teaches these commands will be called great in the kingdom of heaven

That's not the kind of people God wants in Heaven, one's that only feed on sweetener.  God wants people that can flourish on the word of God without the sweeteners, the one's with bravery to withstand the world's taunts for choosing what is right later instead of cheap immediate sweeteners.

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Grace

When you are void of grace, the world appears to be your own personal canvas, a place where you can change and manipulate anything and anyone without recompense.  Others emotions are simply an action of their own doing and not related to anything that you're doing. People appear 2 dimensional and if you wreck one then "its okay because they are not real anyway".  You basically have no feelings for others except what they can do for you only.

It's when we suddenly become aware of this, how we have been treating others and then our conscience is activated that we experience grace for the first time.

Romans 6:14 For sin shall no longer be your master, because you are not under the law, but under grace.

Grace grants us peace in the midst of turmoil, gives us patience when we see ourself reflected in others, and opens our eyes when the real truth finally breaks through the dichotomy we have been surviving in.

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Truth

Truth they say is completely of your own making, it's something you devise to suit your own purposes. In reality, that is the world's view as the real truth that is hidden in the Bible has far reaching effects into our life and our interactions with others.

However, there are a lot of perspectives on whether the Bible is true and accurate, or is it just a book written by old men with nothing else to do and trying to manipulate us?  Some think the Old Testament and New Testament have no correlation with each other.

Psalm 80:17  Let your hand rest on the man at your right hand, the son of man you have raised up for yourself.

The Old Testament carries with it all of the descriptions for the New Testament, just as the whole Bible carries with it the description that our life could take should we make the effort to follow it, or just continue on our merry way and hope that the Bible is not true.

But . . . . what if it is true, right down to the last letter?  Where will we be then if we continue on our merry way?

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Young Adult

When I was young; I knew everything, my ideas were all original in my mind, my actions were necessary, and I was the most just person I knew back then.   Nobody could tell me I was making a mistake because I wasn't. . . . at the time!!  It's funny how the older you get and the more kicks you take in life, the more you realize that wisdom is just a collection of hurt feelings, black eyes, cuts and bruises.  

Ecclesiastes 11:9,  "You who are young, be happy while you are young, and let your heart give you joy in the days of your youth.  Follow the ways of your heart and whatever your eyes see, but know that for all these things God will bring you into judgment."

Every questionable action, frivolous thought and comment, are all necessary in order to be judged for our actions.  So why would we purposefully do that, when we know full well that we will be in trouble later for it?  Because we don't have enough emotional damage in order to think clearly about things.  Our carnal desires have NO consequences . . . right now, but they will and its going to hurt!!  

Best to clear the air right now by confessing your sins so the damage will be less later.  It's time to think ahead.

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Projection

We all have a past that can haunt us if we let it, but there's another side to this where we can become so over confident because we think we know it all because of what we went through to the point of projecting our biased opinions on others.  This can happen with a traumatic event, our job, raising a family, or anything we become very proficient at.

Projection is the belief that because of what we experienced, then we are the ruling authority.  This may be true but we can unknowingly project all those beliefs on others, even when it doesn't fit the situation surrounding that person.

Hebrews 10:22   let us draw near to God with a sincere heart and with the full assurance that faith brings, having our hearts sprinkled to cleanse us from a guilty conscience and having our bodies washed with pure water.

This is how False Profits start, but the bigger concern is that we are still sinning by judging others through our own hurts.  All this means is that we haven't let go of our past and haven't accepted the forgiveness that God has granted us.

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Conduct

Poor conduct is lying, stealing, revenge, infidelity, dishonesty, neglect, gossip, sloth, injustice, self hatred, and many more!  By incorporating these in your daily thought life & activities, you are worsening your final state.  Addictive & compulsive behaviours live in that group of traits.  The more of these you do, the less good you will be inspired to perform, and the less people want to be around you.

Psalm 112:5  Good will come to those who are generous and lend freely, who conduct their affairs with justice.

Living a life free of the above behaviours gives you more time to focus positively on the individuals in your life.  It gives you more rest, peace of mind, energy, and over all happiness.  People don't mind being around you because you make them feel good about themselves.

Chemically speaking, if you put acid into acid, it only becomes more acidic and damaging, and much harder to get rid of!

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The Start

A defining point in a person life where you have finally had enough of the supposed better life, one of addictive and compulsive behaviours, where you do things out of anger, revenge, gaslighting, theft, sex, substance abuse and the list goes on. 

This is the point when life starts to improve, you sleep much better, not looking over your shoulder, mealtimes with friends and family, relaxing and having fun during the evenings instead of a dark sinister lifestyle.  The greatest thing is your past is forgiven completely and you have a new start from today.

Ezekiel 33:12   If someone who is righteous disobeys, that person’s former righteousness will count for nothing. And if someone who is wicked repents, that person’s former wickedness will not bring condemnation.

When people fall back into a debaucherous lifestyle you are also given a brand new start, but in the wrong direction!  The whole point of living free from all those things, is to avoid them.

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Gaslighting

Ever worked with someone who found fault with everything you did?  Tried to condense you and your efforts into a smaller container?  You are the victim of something called gaslighting!  If every addict was to look deep into their history they would probably find traces of this behaviour that was manipulating them due to their open honest lifestyle.

People with little sense of a societal norm prey on the unsuspecting as it bolsters their confidence that they are truly in control of their ever-so-small world.  In reality, they are small children in big people shoes.  School yard bullies!  The Bible tells us about them in:

2 Peter 2:9 ...the Lord knows how to rescue the Godly from trials, and hold the unrighteous accountable... NIV

Realizing that gives the open and honest person who may have compulsive or addictive behaviours the power of knowledge to defeat those who try to impose their compulsive and addictive behaviours on you.  You are no longer the victim of a victim.

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Thoughts

Our thought life is the GPS for the next action we take.  GPS is wonderful when its accurate and they are getting better all the time.  But we don't have to follow the direction it tells us to take which can land us in difficulty.  Getting through life is much like that, our GPS conscience tells us things and if we ignore it, then we wind up in difficulty.

Jeremiah 17:10 “I the Lord search the heart and examine the mind, to reward each person according to their conduct, according to what their deeds deserve.”

When you say "NO" to everything, you become stuffy, old, and miserable before your time.
When you say "YES" to everything, you become gullible, weak, and exhausted before your time.

God wants you to take everything to Him and find out what thinks.  The Bible is our GPS to get us through life.

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Condemnation

Something we receive, give, and occasionally believe.  It's no better than cancer.  Cancer rots your flesh, but condemnation rots your soul if you let it.  If you're a person who struggles with faith, religion, God, or even believing that you're not good enough, then condemnation can sink you if you're not strong enough. 

Some people wield condemnation or guilt as a way to control others, in order to make themselves feel better.  Passing judgement, hurling insults, or magnifying your mistakes are common ways they beat you into the ground.  They may even try to convince you you're not worth anything.

Acts 15:11  No! We believe it is through the grace of our Lord Jesus that we are saved, just as they are.”

The Bible tells us that each of us are God's masterpiece.  If we choose to listen to others when call us  trash then we will always carry that burden, but if we denounce all condemnation against us then their words become pitiful in our eyes! 

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Sanctify

Most people don't know what that is!  It's when you believe in something, finally understand it completely, and give your whole life over to it.  It's doing everything in your life to live according to the teachings of Jesus Christ.  You might still fall at times but your heart is in the right place and want to live wholesomely.  People respect your commitment and you become sanctified.

The opposite of that is an addictive or compulsive behaviour that runs your life, you have no say, basically out of control, and death or destruction is near you all the time.  Your loved ones suffer the most.

1 Thessalonians 4:4-5  Learn to appreciate and give dignity to your body, not abusing it, as is so common among those who know nothing of God. (MSG)

The difference is obvious;  living for God and serving others v/s serving self over all others and ignoring God.  The first one leads to life and the other leads to death.

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The Principle

Not everyone likes you!  It's hard to take a statement like that if you are continually doing things to try to win people over to accept you.  It's an addictive behaviour that stems from abandonment, or some other childhood detriment, one that's never really been dealt with.  So when we are rejected, then falling back into our choice of poison in life, is easy.  Repeated rejection sets in place the blueprint for our life.  Repeated picking up our bad habit is; just a bad habit of picking up the habit.

Once you realize that some people will accept you, others won't, and still others just don't care because they have enough on their plate, then you can start to expose the root of addiction.

Matthew 21:42 Jesus said to them, “Have you never read in the Scriptures: “‘The stone the builders rejected has become the cornerstone; the Lord has done this, and it is marvelous in our eyes’?

The principle should be; give all your worries to Jesus Christ and stop worshipping the idol of your addiction!  In the long run it doesn't matter if people like you or not, but rather if you trust God.

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Trickery

Being tricked does not feel good, but truth be told, every person with a bad habit, hang-up, or addiction, is being tricked daily, hourly, minute by minute.  That's what keeps you doing what you are doing.  If you hate your disorder then you are believing the lie that is keeping you there.

Maybe you don't believe you're worth anything, or you think your habit is actually good for you, or you can't see a way out, or you've given up trying, Jesus Christ thinks you are cool but just a bit messed up right now.  Whatever the reason you have, it is the perfect lie that you are continuing to believe.  God deals harshly with lies, but also heals those afflicted by them.

3 John 11  ".....Anyone who does what is evil has not seen God."

Making a physical choice to step out of your situation and step toward God is a solid first choice and a big one, especially if you can't trust anyone.  Despite what others say, God would much rather see you healed His way, rather than you to see you perish your way.

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Negativity

αρνητική  Ever have someone walk into the room and everyone cringes because of the negativity about to ensue?  Or maybe that's you?  Negativity is the result of unresolved hurt! 

People who don't harbor a grudge, who don't have a bad conscience, and are willing to talk openly about their problems very rarely have a reason to be negative.  Bottling up that hurt only creates pressure that will blow eventually.  It comes out in anger, envy, and all sorts of childish behaviours.  It causes us to gossip, slander, hate, and play tricks on people.  Devious thinking that causes us to cheer when someone fails.  It's hard to even be around them!!!

But someone who brings high spirits and good news into the room, then our spirits are lifted and we don't feel so bad.  Or we hate them for being so happy, because we know we can't be like that.

Romans 10:15  . . . . “How beautiful are the feet of those who bring good news!”

Life can be difficult enough without negative people in it.  Why not try being positive for one day?  It may seem weird at first but over time you do feel much better about life.  Try it!!

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Perspective

Is your glass half full or half empty?  Life's situations are much the same.  Are you half way to Heaven, or half way to hell?  Or do you care?

Sometimes we see our life as how bad we are and how much better we could be.  This is fine as long as we don't beat ourself up in the process.  You are in your place in life because God put you there for reasons unknown to you.  Being hard on yourself only leads to depressive thoughts and is an open invitation to addictive and compulsive behaviours.  If we can't trust anyone, then we have to trust God because we will fail miserably on our own..

 

Psalm 143:7-8  "Answer me quickly, Lord; my spirit fails. Do not hide your face from me or I will be like those who go down to the pit. Let the morning bring me word of your unfailing love, for I have put my trust in you. Show me the way I should go, for to you I entrust my life."

 

Putting your complete trust in Jesus Christ allows you to know that somebody has your back, and as long as you stay true to God and not blame Him for negative things in your life, then He will guide your steps and keep you from harm.

The End

Ever reached the end of your rope, where everything in life has gone wrong, turned against you, or appears lost.  When people have nothing good to say about you or they cast you in a light that doesn't describe you in the least as to who you really are?  You can't understand it and try your best to live life according to God's word, but all these things happen.

Psalm 34:18  The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.

Jesus tells us in the Bible that these things will happen when we believe in Him.  He says, "the world will hate you because of me".   So when we rely on God to lead us, then we are not dependent on a self-serving attitude.  Apparently, the world hates that too!

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Peaceful

When life is wild with hurt, destruction, & calamity, there is a peace in the midst of it, if you choose it!

Ever wonder why some people can calmly sail through life, through the worst of storms, with the greatest of setbacks, and still remain calm in the midst of it?  You witness them in horrific situations and you say to yourself; "If that were me I wouldn't be able to cope".  They appear stronger than us.

Romans 5:3-4  "Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; ⁴ perseverance, character; and character, hope."

When you accept this peace, all hell can be breaking loose and you see it with different eyes.  You see child's play in the actions taken against you and sympathy for those who harmed you accidentally.  But the greatest gift given you is the ability to forgive those people unconditionally.  Also to assist those that feel they need justice and help them achieve it, not do it for them.

Who would have thought that all the sting in your problems could be wiped away by honestly and tearfully saying "Jesus, I accept you into my heart".

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Cowering

When we are unsure of ourself, we lack confidence and are fearful of failure or blame.  It's a crippling way of life!!  It's like we are frozen in time when occurrences happen around us.  We cringe and have to make a hasty retreat.

In this state of mind it happens to be a very good way to pick up an addiction.  We just can't cope with what we see as the frightening reality of life, so we tend to drink, medicate, or turn to habits , or relationships that are just not good for us, one's that get us in trouble.  We can be complacent when all hell is breaking loose around us, which deepens our plight.  We are focusing on foolishness when our thoughts should be on God himself;

Proverbs 9:10 The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom,  and knowledge of the Holy One is understanding.

If all you would do is focus on God, then how would you have any time to focus on your fears.  Besides 90% of all fears we have, never happen, but 100% of what we do for God is remembered for later!!

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Complications

There's an old saying that if things are progressing with no problems, then you have forgotten to address something.  Staying focused allows us to pick up on the details in anything we are doing.  When we allow other things to consume our thoughts that don't pertain to the task at hand, then we start overlooking details.  The more we press in to a task the greater the reward.

Our relationship with God is no different!  The more time we spend seeking Him, and the less time we spend on distractions, then the greater the reward.  But let me rephrase that: "The more time we spend avoiding distractions, the greater the focus is on God." 

2 Chronicles 16:9  For the eyes of the Lord range throughout the earth to strengthen those whose hearts are fully committed to him.

Strengthening our connection with God by reducing distractions doesn't reduce complications, but makes our reaction to the complications a "reward for sacrifice".

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