Not My Fault

If we're not careful, we can fall into a blame game of; you're the reason I am the way I am.  If you've been abused then this is understandable.  But one thing always remains; we are who we are because of the choices we make.  Healing the transgressions of our past is the most difficult thing we must do in life.  We can see the trouble others get in and talk about the damage they do because of their choices, but it's a bit of a different story when we are the one in the public eye who's the talk of the town, or "today's hot topic".

It's not the end of the world when we are "today's topic".  It's just a bit embarrassing that's all.  It really is simply a learning curve we all must go through.  Don't you envy people who can bare their sole, laugh about their own foibles, and publicly admit their mistakes?  They just don't seem impacted by everyone knowing what they did, why, and when!  True visibility means you are open, honest, true to others & yourself, but most importantly, true to God. 

Self-help groups like "Life's Healing Choices" and "Celebrate Recovery" help us to become that open by providing a safe place to do that.

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Science of Religion

Have you ever doubted where you are going in life?  Or ever doubted life or relationships are what they're all hyped up to be?  Sometimes we can't see the forest because the trees are in the way.  Sometimes we can't see the relationship we want because people are in the way.  This is a two-sided coin!  For all we know we are in the best place, or possibly the worst place when it comes to relationships.  But in all reality we won't know until we first try to locate ourself in the forest. Although we have to first weigh that relationship with what God outlines what a good relationship is, in His eyes.  If it doesn't match, then we are probably on a rocky road to somewhere unknown on a scale of outrageous to bland, both of which can be deal breakers to a human!  But you know what?  If you're in a relationship like that, maybe some direction would really help.  God says to forgive and forget 70 x 7 times.  He also says to be faithful and true no matter what!  If we do that, then God will look at us and say, "Well done, good and faithful servant".   Soooo... Now you know where you are going!

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Tears For Nothing

When people or situations in life really hurt and cuts us very deeply.  When we pretend that it probably doesn't matter anyway, or we say "I guess that's just my luck", we get depressed, lose confidence, feel poorly, give up and walk away.  The tears we shed are for nothing!!  We drift away and look for happiness in a quirk, another relationship, eating disorders, assault, drugs, etc.

The other side of the coin is when those same situations cause us to blow our top, we carelessly lash out, say mean and do deplorable things, we get even by hurting them even more than they ever did us.  The tears we shed are for nothing!!  We storm away and look for happiness in a one-night stand, compulsive shopping, self mutilation, a bottle, partners in crime, etc.

Extremes cause us to act out in these and a myriad more ways.  In fact, they are all the same thing: we are running from reality, the inability to stand and deal with problems with a calm demeanor and semi-organized thoughts.  A steady decorum is the dream of 90% of the worlds population, and some achieve it.  Acting out in these strange ways is because we are tempted or thrown from our comfort zone and are oblivious how to handle it.

Self Help groups like Life's Healing Choices & Celebrate Recovery help us to realize that our tears should be reserved for our successes in life and not wasted on the result of poor choices.

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Relationships

Requires a solid understanding of whether they are acquaintances, friends, comrades, intimate, or sexual.  Most people grow up with a tainted view of each of these because of other people's baggage.  A blurry knowledge of these creates a free-for-all when it comes to boundaries or lack there of.  It's when we give our bodies away in an attempt to get people to like us.  It's when we don't think of other peoples feelings that we just take from them when we can get it, because we feel we are entitled.  It's when we are labelled because of our simple approach to what love really is, because we just don't know.  It's the cold approach that we show others when we don't need them anymore.  It's the abandoned feeling we have because they found someone better.   It's the way we try to dodge people because we don't have the courage to face them after a breakup.  Most people we know are only acquaintances, some are friends, fewer are comrades, much less are intimate, and only one should be sexual.

Self-help groups like Celebrate Recovery & Life's Healing Choices help us to differentiate what each group is and more importantly, how to categorize who the people are in our lives.  Being in the dark about what relationships are is the most frightening thing when they go wrong, but the Bible can help us to figure them out.

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Avoiding Decisions

We've all done that!!  Trying to avoid making a life altering decision because we're afraid to make the wrong choice.  We know if we decide one way it will limit us in our freedoms.  Yet if we don't limit those freedoms we could potentially slip further into a quagmire of darkness where we VIEW our only real joy in life exists.  We think like that because we don't know of any other joy other than decay, tragedy, deception, and selfishness.  We've made horrible choices and may look at ourselves as the bottom of the barrel, but we still have the power to justify who we have made ourselves out to be and find something acceptable in that.  But deep down we suspect there is a better life out there, one free of deceiving ourselves and others of who we think we are and who we really should be in the eyes of God.  It's more about us not accepting that, and about us forcing others to accept the way we think.

Self-help groups like Life's Healing Choices & Celebrate Recovery help to see what is truly available to us, where we could be in life, and more importantly . . . WHY?

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Ultimate Strangers

Imagine that you are in a foreign land and don't know anyone there, as well, they all speak a different language than you.  What would you do to fit in?  We all try to put on our best front, the best "ME" I can create.  No matter what you do, these people go about their business and entertainment being rather oblivious to you.  It is as simple as you not knowing them and them not knowing you.  That's all!!

Don't we live life like that in the world we grew up in?  How many people truely know who you really are, or people you truely know?  Deep personal relationships as opposed to the surface friendships we have.  I'm not talking sexual relationships, but rather true friendships, with bodily desires put aside.  It's something most of us are terrified to do, especially if we either of us have baggage we are carrying around.  This is the biggest blockage to true friendships.

Self-help groups like Life's Healing Choices & Celebrate Recovery, teach us how to cast those barriers aside and to work on the real "ME" and to accept the real "YOU".

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What's the Point in Trying

 

Words of a person who has tried to stop repeating the same negative behavior over and over again, but keeps failing.  It's when your girlfriend, husband, child, friend, or whoever finally says "I've had enough of you doing this, I'm leaving".  You've said to yourself 1000 times, "that's the last time I'm doing that, I quit", but you don't quit, because you can't do it on your own power. 

This is the cycle of chronic addictive behaviors, compulsive disorders, and the subsequent destruction of perfectly good relationships.  So what's the common theme in all this?  It's the recipe of denial that anything is wrong.   It's the words "There's nothing wrong, I just can't stop, that's all".  It's all a lie that we tell ourselves and others, in order to cover up deep seated embarassing hurts from our past.

Self-Help groups like Celebrate Recovery & Life's Healing Choices provide a safe place where we can listen to others open up about their problems and we can watch them heal.  We can too, if we want to.  So . . . what about you?

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