Freedom

We don't really realize just what our unbridled opinions and actions can do!!  If we don't care about anyone else then we will do only what is good for us, never pondering our actions.  The world tells us that "if it feels good then do it". The Bible tells us to not live selfishly, to put others first, and to be a good example to others.  The biggest problem is that we don't see what we done until someone else repeats it.  Even then it's hard to imagine that we have that kind of power.  The Bible says:

 Job 35:8 Your wickedness only affects humans like yourself, and your righteousness only other people.

Someone is emulating someone else every second on this earth, be it good or bad!  What are we going to say when we are standing in front of God trying to come up with an excuse for our actions that lead soooo many people to a life of sin?

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Gossip

Why do we gossip?  We feel the need for attention, no matter what kind it is.  Having someone listen to us is vital for our psyche. If we have someones attention even for a few minutes, then that's usually all we need.  This is when we let our guard down and throw all caution to the wind, sharing all kinds of private information (true or false). That's not for us to judge, its only for us to have something to share, so we can hear "ohh, really, ahh".  We think we've made a friend!!

It fills the lonely moments we experience on a daily basis. Gives us a reason to call others as we wouldn't have anything to say otherwise.  It sets our devious plans in motion. It makes us feel important and gives us something to do, as heinous as it may be.  The Bible doesn't paint a good picture of gossip.

2 Cor 12:20 . . . I fear that there may be discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, slander, gossip, arrogance and disorder.

Abandonment, pride, greed, and vengeance are the seeds that help us grow into gossips.  Salting the soil with forgiveness, peace, love, and contentment, removes us from that and sets us high above that dark need.

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Groaning

We can groan about our life circumstances, about others attitudes & behaviours, even our own past. 
Job 23 talks about experiencing a point in life that is passed words, where all we can do is groan.  We don't know how to fix the harsh words we've said or received from others.  We can't forget about how we were treated or how we treated others. So we just groan at the pain of it all.  Groaning is very biblical;

Job 23:2, “Even today my complaint is bitter; his hand is heavy in spite of my groaning.

Groaning is a way to relieve the internal pressure of knowing that we can do nothing more, or maybe that's  just an option?  Living a life free of stress and internal complex thoughts requires forgiveness and surrender to God.  That means we need a new way of thinking about things!!

So we can forgive, forget, learn, grow, and share.  Or we can groan!!! The choice is always ours.

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Judgement

When we judge others, it's a signal that something inside of us is still rotting.  We're ignoring it or we've cleared away most of the visible debris in our emotional life. . . but we can't cover up the harsh cruel realities that we spew because of internal bitterness, unforgiveness, or rancid pride!

Judgement of others is a cover-up for us, to take the focus off of our own failings.  If we gossip about others weaknesses in order to feel accepted, hurl unfair judgements at them behind their back, shun them, or wince our eyes at them, without talking to them about it, then WE are the vessel of evil intentions, not them.

The enemy would like nothing more than to see a group of believers gnaw at each other, causing each other to fall from grace.

2 Timothy 2:25-26 Opponents must be gently instructed, in the hope that God will grant them repentance leading them to a knowledge of the truth, ²⁶ and that they will come to their senses and escape from the trap of the devil, who has taken them captive to do his will.

The Bible also says that if we give the devil a foothold then he has the right to take control of our thinking.

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Unclean

Recovery is an interesting process, mostly because we have a hard time believing we are forgiven.
To top it off we have a hard time ignoring what other believe about us, mostly because we tend to agree with them.  Getting over the ridge of unbelief in ourselves is the most difficult task in the process of healing.

Matthew 9 “The voice spoke from heaven a second time, ‘Do not call anything impure that God has made clean.’

If the Bible says we are forgiven (when we are truly remorseful for our deeds) and God says we are forgiven (when we pray to him for forgiveness), then why would we doubt that it has happened? Probably because there wasn't a grandiose display of forgiveness, the same way there was an over the top reaction to our deeds.

Just a note to say that, "After confession, the voices of condemnation we hear are not from God".

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Hurting

No one knows the amount of pain and anguish we are going through, the buried hurts, caustic feelings, and festering pride.  We keep it concealed quite well, but on occasion we slip and some of that poison comes oozing out when we least expect it.  We form axioms based on our own situation, therefore it must be true of other people.

Colossians 3:10 . . . put on the new self, which is being renewed in knowledge in the image of its Creator.

What we don't realize is that our axioms are simply unfair judgements of others.  They probably don't apply to others quite the same way they apply to us, but that's all we have to work with . . . unless we surrender that pain and pride to God.

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Condemnation

We receive condemnation from others, whether we deserve it or not.   Their weaknesses in their life controls them to act that way.  If we are innocent then the only real damage is done to themselves.

 We give condemnation to others with our own "vision of purity" in ourself.  We may be rotting on the inside but the judgements we hurl at others are, what we believe is a gift to the world.  If they are innocent then only real damage is done to ourself.

The only real way to avoid giving or receiving condemnation is through forgiveness.  We must forgive others for their transgressions against us, and we must forgive those who will not forgive us.

Matthew 12:7 If you had known what these words mean, ‘I desire mercy, not sacrifice,^' you would not have condemned the innocent. 

Whoever is giving it, condemnation is a major sacrifice & forgiveness is just plain old mercy.  Kinda like what Christ did for us.

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