You are Soooo. . . different

What makes us different from each other?  Why do you do the things you do, good or bad?  Why do I find fault in that?  Why do you object to me and my ways?

Well . . . we are taught most of these things from an early age before we can remember.  Some of them come from our upbringing in adolescence.  Some ideas are absorbed because we are adolescent-like in our adult life.  We even learn valuable life lessons in our senior years.

I guess if we are taught the ways of God from beginning to end, then we have a head start, don't we?

Courses like Life Healing Choices & Celebrate Recovery walk us through the life courses that God gives us, only catch is that you must attend and be interested to learn it!

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Playing catch up

Life changes and we must get with the times. Trends come and go and we follow suit.  Old good actions change because of current trends. We are told that respectable ways of life are now wrong.  Then we are told that deplorable ways are the right thing to do. Its confusing especially when you don't know whats right to begin with, or for that matter what's right for this day and age.

Even our habits change usually for the worst.  But what doesn't change is our own attitude towards personal habits. If we don't think about changing then we will stay the same, gradually get worse in our thought patterns.  If we do change our habits then we are free from the bondage that kept us.  But we have to make sure that we are not just changing to suit today's twisted ideals, but rather be close to what God wants instead.  Celebrate Recovery & Life's Healing Choices help us to see what God really wants from us.

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Who Are You?

When we are unknown, or unwanted, or unsure!  People won't take the time to know us, or people who do know us but now don't want to, are a large portion of our distraught feelings.  This of course fuels how we feel about ourselves in a negative way.  So we act out to get attention or we reward ourselves with bad habits for being who we are at this point in time.  If we can't have good company then we can create our own version of what company would represent.  Nuisance behavior can be a friend when no one else cares.  Illicit affairs, pornography, substance abuse, or destructive behavior can somewhat fill the hole in our lives.  At this point we need to step back and look at who we are becoming.

Who we are in God's eyes is the innocent lonely child inside looking for the arms to embrace us and say, "it's all going to be ok".  Little do we know that God keep trying to do that but we are always looking in all the wrong places.  Celebrate Recovery and Life's Healing Choices help us to see that.

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Trust v/s Skepticism

There's a point when you have finally had enough of trying to hold your entire life together, when it's ripping at the seams, when your disgusted with yourself, when you wish you could just be the real you.  Facades are a lot of work, but so is releasing all of the lifestyle you had to fight to build.  When you are ready to decide that it's time to stop what your doing, something else happens.  Skepticism!! You held your life together for as long as you did and you did it your way and it was working, at least until you crashed.  Why would releasing all of that to your Lord be any better than what you did all on your own?

All we really have to do to answer that is to look at Jesus on the cross and try to figure out why He did that for us!  Once we start to understand the reason behind that then the skepticism will start to fade.  Trust v/s skepticism.

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Finding Purpose

Do you have any idea why you are on this planet?

Everyone in this world has a purpose for being here. God planned it that way.  We aren't here to be punished for being bad or rewarded for being exceptional in our past life.  This is our only trip.  God gave us a myriad of opportunities to help people, some are obvious but most are not.  It's as simple as when we give a cool drink of water to someone who needs it that the cycle starts.  That person will do something good to a couple of other people in need.  And so on.  All because you decided to do it to begin with!

The greatest words a person in need could hear is "hey I'm here for you", whatever that turns out to be.  So what is the purpose of all this?  To show us what Jesus did for us.  That's how it all started.

No One Can Help You

There has never been a more false statement ever made.  It is so untrue to assume that.  But wait a minute, sometimes people do things to help us ease our plight, be an example for us, try to teach us better ways, give of their time so we can have a better alternative than the slippery slope we are on in our own thinking.  Sometimes they secretly pray for us, give us things without us knowing, or give gifts because they felt led by the Spirit.  Sometimes they weep for our misgiving ways and sacrifice things in their life for our benefit.

None of those things mean anything if we refuse to stop giving in to our weaknesses.  Those acts of extreme kindness will wither away because we find more importance in our sinful choices than acknowledging their generous ways.  God will reward each of us for our acts.

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Waiting for Justice

Waiting for justice is probably the hardest thing to endure.  When you are downtrodden or suppressed, when people think all kinds of things about you that just aren't true, when they pass judgement on you without allowing you to give a defense, or when they gossip about you. It's harsh, very unfair indeed!!

Not according to God though!!  He says rejoice in that because you are on the right track.  God is telling us to accept people as they are;"good or bad".  We can't change them so we may as well get used to them.  However we can influence them with our "good behavior" and show them their behavior really isn't that important in the long run.  This helps us to avoid pitfalls that drive us to unacceptable behavior in ourselves!!

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Where Does The Time Go?

Locked in a state of despair we are helpless to the effects of depression.  We sit staring at a wall hoping something in our life will change, but it doesn't!!  We pray to God that He will take away our biggest problem in life, but we keep falling back into it, seems as if without any effort.  It's like God doesn't hear us!!

But in reality something did happen when we prayed but we didn't really read the fine print.  Or we read it but forgot that we actually need to get up and do something about it.  God provides the means for us to walk away from our troubles, but sometimes deep down we just don't want to. Matthew 9:5 tells us to 'Pick up our mat and walk".  It doesn't say wait around for someone to fix us!

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Being Alone

Is it really so bad when you find yourself alone?  I think the ultimate is when we are comfortable enough in our own skin where we really don't need people around us for us to feel good about ourself.  There is a time when we need people with us, but I'm speaking of the times when you just need someone else in the house or else we don't feel right.  The times when you yell out, "can you hear me, are you there"?  And someone answers.  It's a good feeling to know we are not alone even if we aren't doing anything together at the moment.

I wonder how God feels when he says, "can you hear me"?  But we are so wrapped up in our own deficiencies that we aren't interested because my focus is on "me" and my problems.  That's why God wants us to be alone sometimes, so He can speak and we can hear.  The goal is to be comfortable being alone so that can happen!!

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Helping People Hurt Us

There are 2 ways of taking that heading;

1/ People who help us, can lead us astray if their motives are shadey, if their belief system is askew, or they are blind to the truth.  Our part in that is our ignorance to what is right in the eyes of God.

2/ We can also help people hurt us by continually seeking the wrong people to find help in!  Our addictive behaviors can lead us to people who help us support our own bad habits.  They are helping you satisfy what your carnal thinking desires.  In their own twisted way, they get a false sense of accomplishment by helping you with your addictive behavior. So in reality, we are helping them support their addictive behavior.

"The truth is, everyone is going to hurt you. You just have to find the ones worth suffering for." - Bob Marley

According to God everyone is worth suffering for, but we need a clear understanding of what constitutes what a healthy relationship is. Keep yourself safe first! is the motive in that.  Then you can successfully help others and in the process help yourself, in the eyes of God.

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Not My Fault

If we're not careful, we can fall into a blame game of; you're the reason I am the way I am.  If you've been abused then this is understandable.  But one thing always remains; we are who we are because of the choices we make.  Healing the transgressions of our past is the most difficult thing we must do in life.  We can see the trouble others get in and talk about the damage they do because of their choices, but it's a bit of a different story when we are the one in the public eye who's the talk of the town, or "today's hot topic".

It's not the end of the world when we are "today's topic".  It's just a bit embarrassing that's all.  It really is simply a learning curve we all must go through.  Don't you envy people who can bare their sole, laugh about their own foibles, and publicly admit their mistakes?  They just don't seem impacted by everyone knowing what they did, why, and when!  True visibility means you are open, honest, true to others & yourself, but most importantly, true to God. 

Self-help groups like "Life's Healing Choices" and "Celebrate Recovery" help us to become that open by providing a safe place to do that.

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Science of Religion

Have you ever doubted where you are going in life?  Or ever doubted life or relationships are what they're all hyped up to be?  Sometimes we can't see the forest because the trees are in the way.  Sometimes we can't see the relationship we want because people are in the way.  This is a two-sided coin!  For all we know we are in the best place, or possibly the worst place when it comes to relationships.  But in all reality we won't know until we first try to locate ourself in the forest. Although we have to first weigh that relationship with what God outlines what a good relationship is, in His eyes.  If it doesn't match, then we are probably on a rocky road to somewhere unknown on a scale of outrageous to bland, both of which can be deal breakers to a human!  But you know what?  If you're in a relationship like that, maybe some direction would really help.  God says to forgive and forget 70 x 7 times.  He also says to be faithful and true no matter what!  If we do that, then God will look at us and say, "Well done, good and faithful servant".   Soooo... Now you know where you are going!

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Tears For Nothing

When people or situations in life really hurt and cuts us very deeply.  When we pretend that it probably doesn't matter anyway, or we say "I guess that's just my luck", we get depressed, lose confidence, feel poorly, give up and walk away.  The tears we shed are for nothing!!  We drift away and look for happiness in a quirk, another relationship, eating disorders, assault, drugs, etc.

The other side of the coin is when those same situations cause us to blow our top, we carelessly lash out, say mean and do deplorable things, we get even by hurting them even more than they ever did us.  The tears we shed are for nothing!!  We storm away and look for happiness in a one-night stand, compulsive shopping, self mutilation, a bottle, partners in crime, etc.

Extremes cause us to act out in these and a myriad more ways.  In fact, they are all the same thing: we are running from reality, the inability to stand and deal with problems with a calm demeanor and semi-organized thoughts.  A steady decorum is the dream of 90% of the worlds population, and some achieve it.  Acting out in these strange ways is because we are tempted or thrown from our comfort zone and are oblivious how to handle it.

Self Help groups like Life's Healing Choices & Celebrate Recovery help us to realize that our tears should be reserved for our successes in life and not wasted on the result of poor choices.

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Relationships

Requires a solid understanding of whether they are acquaintances, friends, comrades, intimate, or sexual.  Most people grow up with a tainted view of each of these because of other people's baggage.  A blurry knowledge of these creates a free-for-all when it comes to boundaries or lack there of.  It's when we give our bodies away in an attempt to get people to like us.  It's when we don't think of other peoples feelings that we just take from them when we can get it, because we feel we are entitled.  It's when we are labelled because of our simple approach to what love really is, because we just don't know.  It's the cold approach that we show others when we don't need them anymore.  It's the abandoned feeling we have because they found someone better.   It's the way we try to dodge people because we don't have the courage to face them after a breakup.  Most people we know are only acquaintances, some are friends, fewer are comrades, much less are intimate, and only one should be sexual.

Self-help groups like Celebrate Recovery & Life's Healing Choices help us to differentiate what each group is and more importantly, how to categorize who the people are in our lives.  Being in the dark about what relationships are is the most frightening thing when they go wrong, but the Bible can help us to figure them out.

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Avoiding Decisions

We've all done that!!  Trying to avoid making a life altering decision because we're afraid to make the wrong choice.  We know if we decide one way it will limit us in our freedoms.  Yet if we don't limit those freedoms we could potentially slip further into a quagmire of darkness where we VIEW our only real joy in life exists.  We think like that because we don't know of any other joy other than decay, tragedy, deception, and selfishness.  We've made horrible choices and may look at ourselves as the bottom of the barrel, but we still have the power to justify who we have made ourselves out to be and find something acceptable in that.  But deep down we suspect there is a better life out there, one free of deceiving ourselves and others of who we think we are and who we really should be in the eyes of God.  It's more about us not accepting that, and about us forcing others to accept the way we think.

Self-help groups like Life's Healing Choices & Celebrate Recovery help to see what is truly available to us, where we could be in life, and more importantly . . . WHY?

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Ultimate Strangers

Imagine that you are in a foreign land and don't know anyone there, as well, they all speak a different language than you.  What would you do to fit in?  We all try to put on our best front, the best "ME" I can create.  No matter what you do, these people go about their business and entertainment being rather oblivious to you.  It is as simple as you not knowing them and them not knowing you.  That's all!!

Don't we live life like that in the world we grew up in?  How many people truely know who you really are, or people you truely know?  Deep personal relationships as opposed to the surface friendships we have.  I'm not talking sexual relationships, but rather true friendships, with bodily desires put aside.  It's something most of us are terrified to do, especially if we either of us have baggage we are carrying around.  This is the biggest blockage to true friendships.

Self-help groups like Life's Healing Choices & Celebrate Recovery, teach us how to cast those barriers aside and to work on the real "ME" and to accept the real "YOU".

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What's the Point in Trying

 

Words of a person who has tried to stop repeating the same negative behavior over and over again, but keeps failing.  It's when your girlfriend, husband, child, friend, or whoever finally says "I've had enough of you doing this, I'm leaving".  You've said to yourself 1000 times, "that's the last time I'm doing that, I quit", but you don't quit, because you can't do it on your own power. 

This is the cycle of chronic addictive behaviors, compulsive disorders, and the subsequent destruction of perfectly good relationships.  So what's the common theme in all this?  It's the recipe of denial that anything is wrong.   It's the words "There's nothing wrong, I just can't stop, that's all".  It's all a lie that we tell ourselves and others, in order to cover up deep seated embarassing hurts from our past.

Self-Help groups like Celebrate Recovery & Life's Healing Choices provide a safe place where we can listen to others open up about their problems and we can watch them heal.  We can too, if we want to.  So . . . what about you?

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A Dangerous Road

 

Like a 3rd century traveler who has never travelled a road before, we stumble through the darkness of life making choices as we run.  There are dangers, hazards, and culprits looking to use and rob us, but the worst of this is our freedom to make very poor choices based on bad information.  We spend years trapped in our own version of hell, never really knowing who we could be if we refused to hold onto our hurts from the past.  By doing this we bring out the worst in ourselves through obsessive and complusive behaviors.

The recipe of someone with an addiction of some sort; sex, eating disorders, alcohol, lying, theft, drugs, abuse, striving, self-mutilation, and the list goes on.  This is where self-help groups like Celebrate Recovery & Life's Healing Choices can help by providing a safe place to share your hurts, habits, & hang-ups with others who share your concerns.  There is help for everyone , , , but you must take the first step!!

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