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Unbelief

Once we realize that we need to step away from our addiction, we do everything humanly possible to keep distant.  Sure we stumble once in a while, but our motive is true to try and avoid it at all possible.  But there is always one thing that continually trips us up and that is unbelief that we are worthy of forgiveness from others or even God.

Unbelievers avoid religion because they don't like hearing about satan and the lake of fire kind of talk.  Picture religion like a large government program: they designate billions of dollars for a certain project.  The money stays there never to be moved except for the people designated to draw on that account. God did the same thing through Jesus Christ; all who believe may draw on that account and those that don't believe may not!!  It's that simple, so the only thing in our way is our choice.

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Demeanor

Napoleon Hill once said: "What the mind can conceive, the mind can achieve".  That is so true as shown below: 

•  If we are afraid, then we won't move.

• If we believe we are worthless, then we will be.

• If we believe we are trapped, then we will never try anything different.
   
• If we believe that our addiction is the only way to feel good about ourself, then that's what we'll do.
  
  
• If we believe that everything we try will fail, then we won't put the effort in to succeed at anything.

• If we believe that a cozy safe place in the darkness, hidden from everyone is the best place to be while trusting in our failing addiction, then that's where we'll stay.

Do you see the common theme?  It's all about OUR choices, not the choices of others.  Here's one more;

• "If I choose to not listen to God's promptings, then I am selfish in my motives and will slowly block His voice out completely! 

But the fallacy remains that just because if I can't hear Him, then I won't be responsible for anything!!
Proverbs 6:14 “Anyone who withholds kindness from a friend, forsakes the fear of the Almighty".  The bible warns us about living selfishly.

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Free

You know when you are truly free, when things don't seem to bother you as much as they used to.  When peoples actions that are less than desirable are basically unimportant to you.  You can easily forgive and smile when others try to get a reaction out of you.  Because you know that its not them who's attacking you but rather a darker influence that is effecting them to act that way.  It's hard to be angry with a victim whose acting out when you are in this free state of mind.

Imagine how many times Jesus forgave others, especially the group who were out to get him.  Did He smile at those doing wrong?  He didn't shake His finger at them for sinning?  Was He compassionate?  He didn't criticize or belittle people who were trapped in a lifestyle because He knew they were victims as well.

Psalm 10:14 "But you, God, see the trouble of the afflicted; you consider their grief and take it in hand. The victims commit themselves to you; you are the helper of the fatherless".

The truth is, "it's easier to forgive others than to be forgiven by others"

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Independence

Depending on people is necessary in our professional and daily lives, but when it comes to emotions we can't depend on anyone.  Depending on people to make us happy or feel secure is a trap, a one way ticket to an addictive behaviour.  We need to be careful to not idolize people.

1 Thessalonians 4:12 says: so that your daily life may win the respect of outsiders and so that you will not be dependent on anybody.  We win respect by proving that we are independent enough to be a positive example to others.

Emotional dependency is something that keeps us from reaching our potential.  If we rely on others to make us emotionally complete then we are missing something; "an important part of me", that I can only find in someone else.  We are to learn the positive traits from others, not duplicate their every move.  The only way to know which traits we should copy is found in the Bible, and by hanging around with those who have a Godly walk.  Try inviting Jesus into your life and see what happens.

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Introspection

Some of us can barely even look at ourself in a mirror, let alone look at our inner thought processes.  Guilt and shame are the biggest factors that hold people back from a clean bill of mental health.  Knowing what you did, said, didn't do, or didn't say it when the time was right, can play a never ending tape of failure in your brain.  We envision grandiose story-lines of revenge, correction, or even just peaceful outcomes, none of which are true.  This is an anchor that prevents us from moving forward because at the end of that ever playing tape is the reality of our failure.  The way things are!

Acknowledging your mistakes and correcting them where you can is the only way out of that devilish cycle. Keeping in mind that some people don't want you to, or will use those weaknesses as a vehicle for their own advancement.  Don't worry about those kind of people but live in God's promise in

Hebrews 12:5 “My dear child, don’t shrug off God’s discipline, but don’t be crushed by it either.
It’s the child he loves that he disciplines; the child he embraces, he also corrects". MSG

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Inconsiderate

Is it something we do out of some sort of compulsion?  Is it deliberate, directed at someone or people in general?  Most likely it's because we are so focused on our own wants, desires, and needs that cause us to live in ways that hurt other people.  Basically we are oblivious to the hurt we cause.

Another side to this is that we are so overwhelmed with the weight of the world around us that causes us to live a entombed life.  We have enough of our own hurts so we just can't handle anymore.  It's a recoil from all our troubles that makes us choose a world free of external disturbance.

The 3rd side of this is that we may feel others inconsiderate behaviors when in reality none exist.  We just can't take rejection of any kind, so it's always someone else's fault that we feel the way we do.

Hebrews 12:14 tells us: Make every effort to live in peace with everyone and to be holy; without holiness no one will see the Lord.

I think this means to give others a break.

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