Where Does The Time Go?

Locked in a state of despair we are helpless to the effects of depression.  We sit staring at a wall hoping something in our life will change, but it doesn't!!  We pray to God that He will take away our biggest problem in life, but we keep falling back into it, seems as if without any effort.  It's like God doesn't hear us!!

But in reality something did happen when we prayed but we didn't really read the fine print.  Or we read it but forgot that we actually need to get up and do something about it.  God provides the means for us to walk away from our troubles, but sometimes deep down we just don't want to. Matthew 9:5 tells us to 'Pick up our mat and walk".  It doesn't say wait around for someone to fix us!

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Being Alone

Is it really so bad when you find yourself alone?  I think the ultimate is when we are comfortable enough in our own skin where we really don't need people around us for us to feel good about ourself.  There is a time when we need people with us, but I'm speaking of the times when you just need someone else in the house or else we don't feel right.  The times when you yell out, "can you hear me, are you there"?  And someone answers.  It's a good feeling to know we are not alone even if we aren't doing anything together at the moment.

I wonder how God feels when he says, "can you hear me"?  But we are so wrapped up in our own deficiencies that we aren't interested because my focus is on "me" and my problems.  That's why God wants us to be alone sometimes, so He can speak and we can hear.  The goal is to be comfortable being alone so that can happen!!

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Helping People Hurt Us

There are 2 ways of taking that heading;

1/ People who help us, can lead us astray if their motives are shadey, if their belief system is askew, or they are blind to the truth.  Our part in that is our ignorance to what is right in the eyes of God.

2/ We can also help people hurt us by continually seeking the wrong people to find help in!  Our addictive behaviors can lead us to people who help us support our own bad habits.  They are helping you satisfy what your carnal thinking desires.  In their own twisted way, they get a false sense of accomplishment by helping you with your addictive behavior. So in reality, we are helping them support their addictive behavior.

"The truth is, everyone is going to hurt you. You just have to find the ones worth suffering for." - Bob Marley

According to God everyone is worth suffering for, but we need a clear understanding of what constitutes what a healthy relationship is. Keep yourself safe first! is the motive in that.  Then you can successfully help others and in the process help yourself, in the eyes of God.

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Helping Me Heal

 

 

 

Not My Fault

If we're not careful, we can fall into a blame game of; you're the reason I am the way I am.  If you've been abused then this is understandable.  But one thing always remains; we are who we are because of the choices we make.  Healing the transgressions of our past is the most difficult thing we must do in life.  We can see the trouble others get in and talk about the damage they do because of their choices, but it's a bit of a different story when we are the one in the public eye who's the talk of the town, or "today's hot topic".

It's not the end of the world when we are "today's topic".  It's just a bit embarrassing that's all.  It really is simply a learning curve we all must go through.  Don't you envy people who can bare their sole, laugh about their own foibles, and publicly admit their mistakes?  They just don't seem impacted by everyone knowing what they did, why, and when!  True visibility means you are open, honest, true to others & yourself, but most importantly, true to God. 

Self-help groups like "Life's Healing Choices" and "Celebrate Recovery" help us to become that open by providing a safe place to do that.

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Science of Religion

Have you ever doubted where you are going in life?  Or ever doubted life or relationships are what they're all hyped up to be?  Sometimes we can't see the forest because the trees are in the way.  Sometimes we can't see the relationship we want because people are in the way.  This is a two-sided coin!  For all we know we are in the best place, or possibly the worst place when it comes to relationships.  But in all reality we won't know until we first try to locate ourself in the forest. Although we have to first weigh that relationship with what God outlines what a good relationship is, in His eyes.  If it doesn't match, then we are probably on a rocky road to somewhere unknown on a scale of outrageous to bland, both of which can be deal breakers to a human!  But you know what?  If you're in a relationship like that, maybe some direction would really help.  God says to forgive and forget 70 x 7 times.  He also says to be faithful and true no matter what!  If we do that, then God will look at us and say, "Well done, good and faithful servant".   Soooo... Now you know where you are going!

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Tears For Nothing

When people or situations in life really hurt and cuts us very deeply.  When we pretend that it probably doesn't matter anyway, or we say "I guess that's just my luck", we get depressed, lose confidence, feel poorly, give up and walk away.  The tears we shed are for nothing!!  We drift away and look for happiness in a quirk, another relationship, eating disorders, assault, drugs, etc.

The other side of the coin is when those same situations cause us to blow our top, we carelessly lash out, say mean and do deplorable things, we get even by hurting them even more than they ever did us.  The tears we shed are for nothing!!  We storm away and look for happiness in a one-night stand, compulsive shopping, self mutilation, a bottle, partners in crime, etc.

Extremes cause us to act out in these and a myriad more ways.  In fact, they are all the same thing: we are running from reality, the inability to stand and deal with problems with a calm demeanor and semi-organized thoughts.  A steady decorum is the dream of 90% of the worlds population, and some achieve it.  Acting out in these strange ways is because we are tempted or thrown from our comfort zone and are oblivious how to handle it.

Self Help groups like Life's Healing Choices & Celebrate Recovery help us to realize that our tears should be reserved for our successes in life and not wasted on the result of poor choices.

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Relationships

Requires a solid understanding of whether they are acquaintances, friends, comrades, intimate, or sexual.  Most people grow up with a tainted view of each of these because of other people's baggage.  A blurry knowledge of these creates a free-for-all when it comes to boundaries or lack there of.  It's when we give our bodies away in an attempt to get people to like us.  It's when we don't think of other peoples feelings that we just take from them when we can get it, because we feel we are entitled.  It's when we are labelled because of our simple approach to what love really is, because we just don't know.  It's the cold approach that we show others when we don't need them anymore.  It's the abandoned feeling we have because they found someone better.   It's the way we try to dodge people because we don't have the courage to face them after a breakup.  Most people we know are only acquaintances, some are friends, fewer are comrades, much less are intimate, and only one should be sexual.

Self-help groups like Celebrate Recovery & Life's Healing Choices help us to differentiate what each group is and more importantly, how to categorize who the people are in our lives.  Being in the dark about what relationships are is the most frightening thing when they go wrong, but the Bible can help us to figure them out.

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