Forebearance

Ignorance is the cause of many peoples downfall.  Temptations come and they fall for it not knowing what can happen if they play along with that temptation.  Then when things go awry, they fall victim to a poor me attitude.  Most of the time it's not intentional, it's because they don't see a way out of their dilemma.  This is a prime example of how addictive behaviours start, you start using drugs, sex, alcohol, bullying, theft, bulimia, and the list goes on, to try to numb the pain of hopelessness because of your plight.

But the Bible is clear in the description of trouble and how to avoid it and get out of it.

1 Corinthians 10:13  No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it. 

I guess the biggest learning curve to staying out of situations that drive you to compulsive and addictive behaviours would be to avoid the temptation all together.  It's called forbearance!

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Confusion

What keeps us in addictive & compulsive behaviour?  As far as that goes; why do relationships go sideways?  When we hold on to ill feelings towards others we are prime for demons to keep us company.  When that happens we forego teachings in the Bible and live our life based on human emotion.  We expect the world to bow to our version of decency.

Psalms 7:14 "Whoever is pregnant with evil conceives trouble and gives birth to disillusionment."

Not having a clear understanding of what the Bible says, leaves us wide open for demonic interference!  People may brush that off thinking they can control that, but that's where the confusion comes in; it's then the story of the blind leading the blind in understanding. 

It's satan's greatest trick because he allows us to believe we can do it because of our personal pride.

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Opportunity

Sometimes we just don't realize what we have until it is gone.  Addictive and compulsive behaviours can keep us locked in a cycle of never looking up, always staring down at our hang-up of choice.  When we do that we miss everything that goes on around us.

What we don't realize is just how much control we have of everything, if we would only look away from our addiction and speak to God.  God created mankind and everything in the world and gave us complete control over it.

Psalm 8:6   "You made them rulers over the works of your hands; you put everything under their feet"

It's hard for us to fathom when we think "little ole' me in charge of anything"; "I can't even control myself".  That's only because we focus all of our attention on ourself and the dismal life we lead, thinking we are hopeless.  Somehow that lie got into our head and has kept us where we are. 

We think we are weak but we have the power to move mountains if we only believe enough!!

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Reflection

Stored up anger, hurt, hatred, fear, lust, depression, and many other emotions show up in a silent language of the heart.  Try as you might to not show it, our inner thoughts leak out of us that others pick up on.  These emotions are reflected back to us in how others react to us. 

Proverbs 27:19  As water reflects the face, so others reflect your heart back to you.

It's kind of cool when you think about it.  It's the Holy Spirit's way of telling us that we have a problem that we haven't dealt with just yet.  But why can't we just bury our problem and forget about it??  Because God has a Quality Control program that lights up everything that is dark, so when we are lit up by God's glory then the dark rot-spots within our lives show up.  The closer we get to the light the more glaring those dark spots are.  Imagine a clean white, well lit room with a tar spot on the wall.

As a light is a beacon in complete darkness, so a dark spot is the focus point in complete light.  This is a very good thing!!

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Who Am I

Through time God speaks to us individually.  We may not believe it, hear it, or understand it, but if we had an inside view of what our life looks like to God, or even an outsiders view, then we could heal ourself from all emotional issues. Being healed from addictive and compulsive behaviours consists of nothing more than understanding what our problem is, who we are without the problem, and how to deal with the problem that never goes away.  We just need to learn how to control ourself around the problem. 

1 Peter 1:14 As obedient children, do not conform to the evil desires you had when you lived in ignorance.

Knowledge about these problems helps us to win over the problem.  We struggle without this knowledge but when we turn our life over to Christ a wonderful insight comes with it....knowing that we are a unique individual who simply has a problem and NOT a problem individual. 

Believe it or not...that is the gift of Christmas!!  Covering up our problems causes us to try to diminish Christmas all together!!

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Behaviour

Life is full of problems, we know that because we have them!  Life is full of blessings too, we know that because we see others get them!  However, what we don't see is our own reactions to problems.  I doubt you will see someone clapping and cheering when they receive horrible news.  The point is, problems are simply a way for us to build up our personality so that we can handle bigger problems in the future.  But what's the point of that?

Do you have someone you admire because of the way they handle disappointing news?  We have problems in our life to strengthen us and show us what we need to do next.  When you don't understand that, then addictive and compulsive behaviours can creep in and freeze us where we are, so no growth is possible.

Proverbs 30:3  "I have not learned wisdom, nor have I attained to the knowledge of the Holy One."

Learning from our mistakes is what God planned for us to do.  When you don't know that then defeat and failure seem like its your destiny in life.  But its not, you can be what ever you choose to be.

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Self Deception

In the midst of every act of disobedience we commit, there is a small but tiny catch that holds us accountable for our actions.  We act out our compulsive or addictive behaviours only after we have decided to do so.  Every time, we are reminded in our conscience that what we are doing is wrong, but we choose to gloss over that small voice that is trying to guide us in the right direction.  The damage done to us in our life tricks us into thinking that the enjoyment of the moment is a far better thing than security in the long run.  That's the basis of an addiction or compulsive behaviour. 

Hebrews 8:10 "I will put my laws in their minds and write them on their hearts.

We know this verse is true!!  Its hard to admit that we don't first think about the things we do wrong and do them anyway.  The problem is, after a while of refusing to listen to the voice it eventually goes away.  Leaving us thinking that what we are doing is alright....but deep down we know better.

That voice is not our imagination, its the essence of God trying to protect us.

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