Negativity

αρνητική  Ever have someone walk into the room and everyone cringes because of the negativity about to ensue?  Or maybe that's you?  Negativity is the result of unresolved hurt! 

People who don't harbor a grudge, who don't have a bad conscience, and are willing to talk openly about their problems very rarely have a reason to be negative.  Bottling up that hurt only creates pressure that will blow eventually.  It comes out in anger, envy, and all sorts of childish behaviours.  It causes us to gossip, slander, hate, and play tricks on people.  Devious thinking that causes us to cheer when someone fails.  It's hard to even be around them!!!

But someone who brings high spirits and good news into the room, then our spirits are lifted and we don't feel so bad.  Or we hate them for being so happy, because we know we can't be like that.

Romans 10:15  . . . . “How beautiful are the feet of those who bring good news!”

Life can be difficult enough without negative people in it.  Why not try being positive for one day?  It may seem weird at first but over time you do feel much better about life.  Try it!!

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Tongue

Ever lied, said something harsh or vindictive and then wondered why you said it?  You're not alone.  It is a common affliction among all nationalities, men, women, children, young, or old.  It results from a stressful loose connection with the heart and mind, and the tongue is the vent to relieve the internal pressure.

The heart & mind in their natural state are carnal, simply storage devices.  Our families and society train our hearts and minds up to the way things are done around us.  We adopt that and basically we know no other way!  When we interact with others, read books, find spiritual influence in things, we start to see a different path. 

James 3:7-8 All kinds of animals, birds, reptiles and sea creatures are being tamed and have been tamed by mankind, ⁸ but no human being can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison.

Through hardship that we bring on ourself, we learn to control the tongue, but more importantly, bond the heart and mind together so the tongue becomes under our full control.  Discuss this with Jesus Christ to find out how!

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Craving

садржај   It can cause us to let down our guard & wander away from sound thinking into an experiential type of lifestyle.  Experiencing things is good and not wrong by any means, but what I'm talking about is what will entrap us.  Our conscience is our guide.  If we give into one questionable way of life, then the rest are now acceptable all because we did not heed the warnings in the Bible.

Psalms 106:14  In the desert they gave in to their craving; in the wilderness they put God to the test.

It goes on to tell us that they made a golden calf for worship, fell to disease, were rebellious, and finally swallowed up by the earth!  Uncontrolled cravings lead to lust, the perfect setting for an addiction or compulsive behaviour.  It all starts with complaining, envy, lust, greed, and a false sense of entitlement.

We have to remember that we are where we are because God lead us there to grow us, or we forced God's hand and he gave us the desires of our heart!  Either way we are meant to be content where we are.  Read the warnings, take everything to God, and wait for His timing.

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Compulsive Behaviour

예수 What does that even mean?  There's a fine line between psychological and spiritual interpretations.  The old adage: "if you love something then set it free, if it comes back then it is yours, if it doesn't then it never was".  Showing a true undying love for something is different than Compulsive Behaviour. 

Undying love means you want the best for it and will be willing to set it free for the betterment of the thing you love.

Compulsive behaviour usually needs to entrap the thing you love for the betterment of yourself.

It's all motive driven based on our upbringing. We only do what we know and won't do anything different until we learn how to do it.

Romans 8:5  Those who live according to the flesh have their minds set on what the flesh desires; but those who live in accordance with the Spirit have their minds set on what the Spirit desires.

So its the difference between receiving a gift versus lusting after it.

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Shamed

躕 Ever done something wrong and felt bad about it?  This is good!  It's when we have case-hardened our conscience so that we no longer feel any remorse for our actions that addictive and compulsive behaviours start.  When we blank out peoples feelings, ignore laws, lie to cover up our crimes, and assume the plunder from our victims is rightfully ours, is when we are closest to death. 

Question: If we live a life like that and were to die today then we have no way to try to repair the damage we have done.

GOD HAS A PROBLEM WITH PEOPLE WHO WON'T EVEN TRY!  But He abundantly blesses those that that do.

Romans 2:16  This will take place on the day when God judges people’s secrets through Jesus Christ, as my gospel declares.

The worst bout of shame would be to stand in front of God knowing you never even tried!

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Desires

They can help us or harm us.  A healthy desire shows you are alive and active which most people are.  We may all differ in our tastes but the desire to have those thing is honorable.

But not everyone is like that.  When we have addictive or compulsive behaviours things like "honor and healthy" go out the window and they are replaced with "self-centered and greed".  There's nothing honorable about wallowing in your own self pity and you have to be very greedy with your motives. 

We have to remember that God is a very generous God and gives you the desires of your heart.  It's not good when our desires don't line up with God plan and we refuse to accept His teachings;

Psalm 81:12  "So I gave them over to their stubborn hearts to follow their own devices."

Our own devices and desires can and will label us unless we change our habits, and to do that, we need to deal with our hurts and hang ups!!

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Chasten

Addictive and compulsive behaviours usually result from no chastening when we were growing up or over the top chastening to the point of abuse.  Either way it breaks our thinking, causes us to think waaaay outside the box, and gives us license to rebel, or be so totally confused that we simply don't know what's right!

Healthy chastening by someone who loves us helps us set acceptable boundaries for ourselves.  This solid thinking given to us at a young age helps us to avoid extreme situations because we know there will be consequences for our actions.

Proverbs 29:17 "Discipline your children, and they will give you peace; they will bring you the delights you desire." 

If you've never received that teaching then you are on your own, but only until we get tired and hand our life over to Jesus.  God will still need to chasten us and as long as we don't rebel then God can still straighten us out.

 Hebrews 12:7 "Endure hardship as discipline; God is treating you as his children. For what children are not disciplined by their father?"

Chastening or hardship in our life is hard to understand....but it is soooo true!!  (so there's no need to get depressed or angry)

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