Shamed

躕 Ever done something wrong and felt bad about it?  This is good!  It's when we have case-hardened our conscience so that we no longer feel any remorse for our actions that addictive and compulsive behaviours start.  When we blank out peoples feelings, ignore laws, lie to cover up our crimes, and assume the plunder from our victims is rightfully ours, is when we are closest to death. 

Question: If we live a life like that and were to die today then we have no way to try to repair the damage we have done.

GOD HAS A PROBLEM WITH PEOPLE WHO WON'T EVEN TRY!  But He abundantly blesses those that that do.

Romans 2:16  This will take place on the day when God judges people’s secrets through Jesus Christ, as my gospel declares.

The worst bout of shame would be to stand in front of God knowing you never even tried!

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Desires

They can help us or harm us.  A healthy desire shows you are alive and active which most people are.  We may all differ in our tastes but the desire to have those thing is honorable.

But not everyone is like that.  When we have addictive or compulsive behaviours things like "honor and healthy" go out the window and they are replaced with "self-centered and greed".  There's nothing honorable about wallowing in your own self pity and you have to be very greedy with your motives. 

We have to remember that God is a very generous God and gives you the desires of your heart.  It's not good when our desires don't line up with God plan and we refuse to accept His teachings;

Psalm 81:12  "So I gave them over to their stubborn hearts to follow their own devices."

Our own devices and desires can and will label us unless we change our habits, and to do that, we need to deal with our hurts and hang ups!!

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Chasten

Addictive and compulsive behaviours usually result from no chastening when we were growing up or over the top chastening to the point of abuse.  Either way it breaks our thinking, causes us to think waaaay outside the box, and gives us license to rebel, or be so totally confused that we simply don't know what's right!

Healthy chastening by someone who loves us helps us set acceptable boundaries for ourselves.  This solid thinking given to us at a young age helps us to avoid extreme situations because we know there will be consequences for our actions.

Proverbs 29:17 "Discipline your children, and they will give you peace; they will bring you the delights you desire." 

If you've never received that teaching then you are on your own, but only until we get tired and hand our life over to Jesus.  God will still need to chasten us and as long as we don't rebel then God can still straighten us out.

 Hebrews 12:7 "Endure hardship as discipline; God is treating you as his children. For what children are not disciplined by their father?"

Chastening or hardship in our life is hard to understand....but it is soooo true!!  (so there's no need to get depressed or angry)

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Harm

Is either physical or psychological.  It can be demoralizing or medical.  We have to wonder why people enjoy harming others.  Why wouldn't we all just want to live in peace?  There are really only 2 reasons; Greed or Unforgiveness.

People take from us or we take from others; that produces greed!  Others have what we want or think we need,  so we break the laws of the land or the law's of God.

We can't forgive others and others can't forgive us; that produces revenge and anger!  We do our best to harm others for their acts against us, so we break the laws of the land or the law's of God.

The Bible says in Roman's 13:10  "Love does no harm to a neighbor. Therefore love is the fulfillment of the law."

It also states that the leaders & governments are put in place by God, so if we break the law's of the land then we are breaking the laws of God!   In the end that will really harm us.

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Patience

One of the hardest things in the world to control.  When we see opportunity, given a gift of our dreams, or excitement to be with some one or thing!  Kind of turns us into a "bull inside a china shop".  The harder we try, the further it gets away.

That goes with healing too!  We can realize all our mistakes and take steps to correct them (which is awesome) but others in those situations are still ultimately in control, if we let them.  If they accept our apology all is well, but if they grudge then they can lead you down a path of torment.

When we accept Jesus Christ and His teachings into our heart none of that matters any longer as long as we stay with Christ's teachings.  God needs us to be in places where He can work with others in need, just as we were.

Prov 16:7  When the Lord takes pleasure in anyone’s way, he causes their enemies to make peace with them.

Give God time to soften those hearts, and stop taking unforgiven blame from others personally!!  It's really between them and God, not you!!

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Moment

It only takes a moment to make a mistake.  Emotional, addictive, or compulsive moments in our life have the power to destroy people or our self, but it also has the power to build people up.  When we stop and think before we act or speak out, every time we say no to an addictive habit, and every time we analyze the reasons for the compulsive behaviour, we win.  The other people around us also win by seeing that they matter to us because we chose to curb our weakness for them.

Ephesians 4:32 "Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you."

It might seem trivial to us, but to others its an act of compassion, that shows genuine spirit in us. Compassion is not something the world gives easily, and we are suspicious to receive it for fear of manipulation, but that doesn't mean we shouldn't try.

What can go wrong if all we do is emulate Christ, or should I say lets see what goes right when we try?

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Perspective

Is your glass half full or half empty?  Life's situations are much the same.  Are you half way to Heaven, or half way to hell?  Or do you care?

Sometimes we see our life as how bad we are and how much better we could be.  This is fine as long as we don't beat ourself up in the process.  You are in your place in life because God put you there for reasons unknown to you.  Being hard on yourself only leads to depressive thoughts and is an open invitation to addictive and compulsive behaviours.  If we can't trust anyone, then we have to trust God because we will fail miserably on our own..

 

Psalm 143:7-8  "Answer me quickly, Lord; my spirit fails. Do not hide your face from me or I will be like those who go down to the pit. Let the morning bring me word of your unfailing love, for I have put my trust in you. Show me the way I should go, for to you I entrust my life."

 

Putting your complete trust in Jesus Christ allows you to know that somebody has your back, and as long as you stay true to God and not blame Him for negative things in your life, then He will guide your steps and keep you from harm.