Getting Even

We've all done things to others that gets them into a riled state, and they've responded in kind by getting even with us.  To hurt us so we know not to mess with them in the future.  Maybe you've gotten even with someone because of something they did to you.  An "eye for and eye" kind of thinking.

What if it was an accident?  What if the person doesn't even know they did something wrong or its a vicious rumor and we get even with them anyway?  The whole problem with this thinking is that we are supposed to go to the person first and bring their transgression to their attention.  If they refuse to acknowledge or make good their mistake then the "eye for an eye" rule takes place.  Society has forgotten to "speak to the person who wronged you first and work it out".

Self-help groups like Celebrate Recovery & Life's Healing Choices teach us to get over our anger and start a meaningful conversation with someone no matter what they've done or we have perpetrated.

PS: (by the way, getting even is a short term fix for us much like any other disorder.  It's the opposite of forgiveness)

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Your next choice

If you have a desperate or defeated mind, decisions made in that moment of passion will alter yours or someone else s life forever.  It's a time when we should be counting to 10 and coaxing ourselves to relax, but instead we fall victim to our own selfish desires to try to calm our feelings in a mechanical way with; bullying, drugs, alcohol, sex, theft, eating disorders, lying, etc.  But the worst thing we can do is try to coax others down to our deplorable state so we don't feel alone.

It seems that being alone amplifies our feelings of despair!!  Perhaps that's why Jesus spent 40 days in the desert, to root these things out so it no longer has any power over us.  That's the power of fasting!!

Self-help groups like Celebrate Recovery and Life's Healing Choices help us to recognize circumstances that we may be blind to in ourselves.

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Holding Out

Being alone is a choice!!  Not lonely, but just alone.  I guess its the reason for being alone that's most important.  Are you staying away from situations that may trigger a response in you to act out in an illegal, immoral, or unethical fashion?  Then you will be alone, but that's something to rejoice in and not feel bad about.  You obviously understand that God has magnificent plans for you, but the trick is; to stay in His will.

It's very hard keeping yourself out of a fun situation.  A time when everyone is having the time of their lives, except you. . . because of your moral base!!  Finding peace in that seems to take the edge off of why you chose to be alone in the first place.

Self help groups like Celebrate Recovery and Life's Healing Choices help us to investigate other ways of filling our time when we DO choose to be alone because of our moral choices.  Congratulations on taking the steps necessary to think about these things.

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What's meant to be yours!

You've heard that when you set something free, if it comes back to you then it is yours.  If it doesn't come back to you, then it never was.  That belief system requires something called faith. Faith is the same element that we must use when we place our trust in God.

God did the same thing with us.  He set us free to do our own thing, however He did leave us with an easy out; the "Bible".  Basically a collection of do's and don'ts, right and wrong, if we choose to even read it.

So as we aimlessly wander the world's ways, adopting what we think is cool or right in our own eyes.  God patiently waits for us to return to Him so we can fit into His tapestry.  Which means walking away from our own constructed world.

Celebrate Recovery & Life's Healing Choices give the means to understand what God's plan is and help us realize how damaged our thinking can be in the process.

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Rewarding Yourself

When you have made it a point to change your life and your tired of giving in to negative behaviors.  So when you have been free from compulsive or addictive behaviors for a day, week, month, year, etc.  You need to think of different ways to celebrate those milestones with small but meaningful rewards.  Caution here: but saying to yourself well "I've been really good so I think I can do this in moderation now, because I proved I CAN quit"  Very slippery slope, chase those words right out of your mind!!  That is just a trigger.

Groups like Celebrate Recovery & Life's Healing Choices help us to see the triggers that lure us back into a very bad place.  Giving in to our addictions & compulsive behaviors is called relapse.  All that does is rob us of the very reason for us to celebrate our achievements.

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Barren Times

There are times in our life that seem to be empty or void of stimulation.  We feel lost or confused because of the circumstances around us.  We can't deal with peoples actions or can't accept that things didn't go our way.  We can't find a place in our emotions that is solid at times like this, so we have a hard time coping.

These are barren times that are designed for us to reach out to God and stop believing we can fix things on our own.  There are groups out there that try to teach us how to "Create Our Own Future".  It's true that we can do that to a certain degree, but in reality "it's how we deal with failure" that will determine our next step.  We fail thousands of times in our life, but none of those ends our existence.  Nor should it end our belief in our . . . . "self".

Self Help groups like Celebrate Recovery & Life's Healing Choices help us to realize that with God's help all things are possible.

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He Said She Said

Why do we put so much emphasis on conversations like this?  We hear information about some one and we just have to repeat it.  Most of the time it is just making conversation, but why do we feel we need to make that conversation in the first place?  Either feelings of importance are the focus or we are uncomfortable with silence.  Either way we are simply uncomfortable with ourself.  We need to put on a friendly face, or we need people to look at us with awe.

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There's another side to this as well!  If someone says something innocent about a person, we can quickly run to the other person and report it to them in an honest or dishonest fashion.  This way we can win friends by ratting them out and gaining acceptance.  We just can't accept ourselves without the acceptance of another.

 

Self Help groups like Celebrate Recovery & Life's Healing Choices help us to find comfort in ourself so we don't need to speak about meaningless topics.

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