Wandering

Like trying to find something in the dark, we wander through life without direction.  We don't know what's right for us and if we don't spend time looking & studying for it, then anything that comes along becomes acceptable.  This is how addictive and compulsive behaviors start, and really bad habits.

1 Corinthians 10:23  “I have the right to do anything,” you say—but not everything is beneficial. “I have the right to do anything”—but not everything is constructive.

The Bible gives us guidelines to follow and the commandments are there to steer us in a more positive direction.  Simply being disobedient and ignoring them means we have made the choice that we know better, based on our limited perspective of the world as we see it.  Addictive & compulsive behaviors can be changed, but when talking about Heaven & hell, mistakes made based on ignorance in this case would be irreversible. 

Pray for the wisdom to see the differences. . .

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Restoration

We can walk around blinded to the truth in all situations if we are willing to avoid anything that resembles the truth.  If we are afraid to even approach revealing our weaknesses, then darkness is our comfort, because we avoid the light.  Concealing the truth is simply lying, as avoiding healing is simply lying.  Living in darkness is living the lie.

Acts 9:18 Immediately, something like scales fell from Saul’s eyes, and he could see again. He got up and was baptized, ¹⁹ and after taking some food, he regained his strength.

Finally realizing that most of our actions are based on living the lie, is when the light of the truth starts to creep in.  It can be emotionally painful, but when the light of God becomes greater, than the darkness we surrender to in every situation, is when we are truly released.

Suddenly joy replaces gloom and our smile becomes more genuine.

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Deceptive

When we step away from the virtues in the Bible we are left with the opposites of that way of life.

Bible               World
Purity           -   Lust
Abstinence   -  Gluttony         You have to be brave to display the ways of the Bible known as Grace.
Generosity    -  Greed
Ethics            -  Sloth
Forgiveness   -  Wrath            You have to deploy deception to display the ways of the world.
Kindness        -  Envy
Modesty         -  Pride

Deception is exhausting as you always have to cover your tracks and plan all the details of your next attack.  You have to try to anticipate your victims reactions, set traps for the unsuspecting, and manipulate innocent bystanders to do your dirty work for you. 

Grace is resting in the Lord knowing full well that He has your back covered, that traps set for you  will be sprung on those who plan them, encourage others, and pray for those who are locked in the beliefs of the world's deceptions.

The greatest correction to take place is to realize what you really are in the eyes of God.

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The Principle

Not everyone likes you!  It's hard to take a statement like that if you are continually doing things to try to win people over to accept you.  It's an addictive behaviour that stems from abandonment, or some other childhood detriment, one that's never really been dealt with.  So when we are rejected, then falling back into our choice of poison in life, is easy.  Repeated rejection sets in place the blueprint for our life.  Repeated picking up our bad habit is; just a bad habit of picking up the habit.

Once you realize that some people will accept you, others won't, and still others just don't care because they have enough on their plate, then you can start to expose the root of addiction.

Matthew 21:42 Jesus said to them, “Have you never read in the Scriptures: “‘The stone the builders rejected has become the cornerstone; the Lord has done this, and it is marvelous in our eyes’?

The principle should be; give all your worries to Jesus Christ and stop worshipping the idol of your addiction!  In the long run it doesn't matter if people like you or not, but rather if you trust God.

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Action

You can tell when someone has finally decided to stop a life of addictive and compulsive behaviours, of lying, cheating, stealing, drug and alcohol use.  Their demeanor changes, the facial expressions are softer, verbage is not so demonic, and they are absent from the usual places you would find them.

You can say through your own determination that you are done with that lifestyle, but it's always in your view and you're are always on edge.  It shows in your brow, words, and your actions, that it is ever so close to you still.  Fighting that behaviour with all your might!! 

James 2:17  "In the same way, faith by itself, if it is not accompanied by action, is dead".

There is an easier way.  Truly releasing that lifestyle and being free from the magnetic draw of its attraction can be easy, but only if you release your control over life.  Think back to a time when you were stressed about a task and someone with knowledge about it came and did it for you, and how relieved you were after.

Giving your life to Jesus is just like that, except He will fix your problems for you, if you choose to turn away from them.

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Motive

Everyone has motives!  People do things because they have motivation to do it in order to gain something.  If what we seek after is upright and honorable then all is well, it's when we have to resort to scheming that all things fall apart.  If scheming or manipulation is part of your motive, then you are already on a slippery slope into addictive behaviours.  You wind up using people for your own personal gain.  If you liked the outcome the first time you rely on tactics like that, then you are hooked.

Scheming, manipulation, drug use, alcoholism, thievery, prostitution, lying, rape, embezzling, and many more....All have the same motivation, to treat people like objects to be used and cheated.  God hates that!

2 Peter 3:9  The Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand slowness. Instead he is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance.

If we don't know what is acceptable in society, then we certainly won't know what's acceptable with God.  Coming to a realization of our actions starts with messages like this, just speaking the truth.

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Appearance

We may not see anything wrong with the sketchy things we do in public or in front of our family and friends.  They may be questionable behaviours, out right illegal, or completely morally deprived.  It doesn't seem to matter to someone with an addiction or compulsive behaviour, because the feel-good-temporary-fix seems to be enough to get us through the day.  We look like a fool to everyone with common sense, but to us that doesn't matter.

That thinking can only come from selfish motives, or thinking we are less than everyone else around us.  We deceptively tell ourself that we "don't care what other people think"  or "it doesn't matter because I'm not worth it anyway". 

Both of these statements are straight out of the pit of hell.  Tricks to get us to believe we are destined to be what we currently are and not what we could be!

Proverbs 18:14 The human spirit can endure in sickness, but a crushed spirit who can bear?

If you believe the voices in your head, that you are less than a magnificent creation of God, then your spirit is crushed. . . . but only as long as you believe that.   

 

You see; what you believe you are is what you are.  The key is believe!

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