Action

You can tell when someone has finally decided to stop a life of addictive and compulsive behaviours, of lying, cheating, stealing, drug and alcohol use.  Their demeanor changes, the facial expressions are softer, verbage is not so demonic, and they are absent from the usual places you would find them.

You can say through your own determination that you are done with that lifestyle, but it's always in your view and you're are always on edge.  It shows in your brow, words, and your actions, that it is ever so close to you still.  Fighting that behaviour with all your might!! 

James 2:17  "In the same way, faith by itself, if it is not accompanied by action, is dead".

There is an easier way.  Truly releasing that lifestyle and being free from the magnetic draw of its attraction can be easy, but only if you release your control over life.  Think back to a time when you were stressed about a task and someone with knowledge about it came and did it for you, and how relieved you were after.

Giving your life to Jesus is just like that, except He will fix your problems for you, if you choose to turn away from them.

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Motive

Everyone has motives!  People do things because they have motivation to do it in order to gain something.  If what we seek after is upright and honorable then all is well, it's when we have to resort to scheming that all things fall apart.  If scheming or manipulation is part of your motive, then you are already on a slippery slope into addictive behaviours.  You wind up using people for your own personal gain.  If you liked the outcome the first time you rely on tactics like that, then you are hooked.

Scheming, manipulation, drug use, alcoholism, thievery, prostitution, lying, rape, embezzling, and many more....All have the same motivation, to treat people like objects to be used and cheated.  God hates that!

2 Peter 3:9  The Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand slowness. Instead he is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance.

If we don't know what is acceptable in society, then we certainly won't know what's acceptable with God.  Coming to a realization of our actions starts with messages like this, just speaking the truth.

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Appearance

We may not see anything wrong with the sketchy things we do in public or in front of our family and friends.  They may be questionable behaviours, out right illegal, or completely morally deprived.  It doesn't seem to matter to someone with an addiction or compulsive behaviour, because the feel-good-temporary-fix seems to be enough to get us through the day.  We look like a fool to everyone with common sense, but to us that doesn't matter.

That thinking can only come from selfish motives, or thinking we are less than everyone else around us.  We deceptively tell ourself that we "don't care what other people think"  or "it doesn't matter because I'm not worth it anyway". 

Both of these statements are straight out of the pit of hell.  Tricks to get us to believe we are destined to be what we currently are and not what we could be!

Proverbs 18:14 The human spirit can endure in sickness, but a crushed spirit who can bear?

If you believe the voices in your head, that you are less than a magnificent creation of God, then your spirit is crushed. . . . but only as long as you believe that.   

 

You see; what you believe you are is what you are.  The key is believe!

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Oppression

People try to be more important than everyone else.  It's not really greed, it's more like envy or fear.  People with a strong demeanor who are weaker in communication skills can oppress others very easily and they may not even know why themselves. 

The mind gets excited when it receives a Dopamine shot from our metabolism and this happens when we achieve something.  Like athletes or actors, or when everyone applauds you for a job well done.  That shot basically affirms who we are and what we do.  Problem is, people can become addicted to it.  That's when we need to stand up for ourselves to stop their Dopamine fix at our expense.

Titus 2:15 "These, then, are the things you should teach. Encourage and rebuke with all authority. Do not let anyone despise you."

That's what Jesus did!  He didn't let anyone trample on Him or talk down to Him.  He stood His ground in the face of adversity all while respecting His opponents.  Mind you He is God incarnate and has all the answers, but it is a beautiful example of what we can do simply by following Jesus' teachings.  And stopping oppression against us.

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Genuine

It's something quite a few people know nothing about.  It's not a skill you learn in school, or something to purchase over the counter.  Unfortunately, through tough life experiences we learn to avoid being genuine because we can be taken advantage of.  For some reason we think a tough uncaring outer skin is appealing! Really??

1 Corinthians 4:7   For who makes you different from anyone else? What do you have that you did not receive? And if you did receive it, why do you boast as though you did not receive it? 

In reality it all stems from being prepared for the next attack, the next attempt by someone to hone in on our territory.  I'll show them!!

The Bible does carry with it; ways of communicating, ways to disagree nicely but firmly, and solid ways of leadership that win others over, rather than beating them down to defeat. Only problem is, you say you don't have time to read it.  That's a missed opportunity!

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Trickery

Being tricked does not feel good, but truth be told, every person with a bad habit, hang-up, or addiction, is being tricked daily, hourly, minute by minute.  That's what keeps you doing what you are doing.  If you hate your disorder then you are believing the lie that is keeping you there.

Maybe you don't believe you're worth anything, or you think your habit is actually good for you, or you can't see a way out, or you've given up trying, Jesus Christ thinks you are cool but just a bit messed up right now.  Whatever the reason you have, it is the perfect lie that you are continuing to believe.  God deals harshly with lies, but also heals those afflicted by them.

3 John 11  ".....Anyone who does what is evil has not seen God."

Making a physical choice to step out of your situation and step toward God is a solid first choice and a big one, especially if you can't trust anyone.  Despite what others say, God would much rather see you healed His way, rather than you to see you perish your way.

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Secret

Secrets cannot be kept if we:

• don't have control of our tongue.
• don't care for others feelings.
• are trying to please others.
• have no self worth.
• are malicious.
• are envious.
• hate.

Secrets should not be kept if it:

• is greedy
• is self-serving
• deceives others
• degrades others
• destroys reputations
• is scheming in nature
• is filled with hatred for another

Matthew 6:6  But when you pray, go into your room, close the door and pray to your Father, who is unseen. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you.

Secrets are either black or white as the heart is either good or evil.  Sometimes we may not know the difference!

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