Appearance

We may not see anything wrong with the sketchy things we do in public or in front of our family and friends.  They may be questionable behaviours, out right illegal, or completely morally deprived.  It doesn't seem to matter to someone with an addiction or compulsive behaviour, because the feel-good-temporary-fix seems to be enough to get us through the day.  We look like a fool to everyone with common sense, but to us that doesn't matter.

That thinking can only come from selfish motives, or thinking we are less than everyone else around us.  We deceptively tell ourself that we "don't care what other people think"  or "it doesn't matter because I'm not worth it anyway". 

Both of these statements are straight out of the pit of hell.  Tricks to get us to believe we are destined to be what we currently are and not what we could be!

Proverbs 18:14 The human spirit can endure in sickness, but a crushed spirit who can bear?

If you believe the voices in your head, that you are less than a magnificent creation of God, then your spirit is crushed. . . . but only as long as you believe that.   

 

You see; what you believe you are is what you are.  The key is believe!

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Oppression

People try to be more important than everyone else.  It's not really greed, it's more like envy or fear.  People with a strong demeanor who are weaker in communication skills can oppress others very easily and they may not even know why themselves. 

The mind gets excited when it receives a Dopamine shot from our metabolism and this happens when we achieve something.  Like athletes or actors, or when everyone applauds you for a job well done.  That shot basically affirms who we are and what we do.  Problem is, people can become addicted to it.  That's when we need to stand up for ourselves to stop their Dopamine fix at our expense.

Titus 2:15 "These, then, are the things you should teach. Encourage and rebuke with all authority. Do not let anyone despise you."

That's what Jesus did!  He didn't let anyone trample on Him or talk down to Him.  He stood His ground in the face of adversity all while respecting His opponents.  Mind you He is God incarnate and has all the answers, but it is a beautiful example of what we can do simply by following Jesus' teachings.  And stopping oppression against us.

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Genuine

It's something quite a few people know nothing about.  It's not a skill you learn in school, or something to purchase over the counter.  Unfortunately, through tough life experiences we learn to avoid being genuine because we can be taken advantage of.  For some reason we think a tough uncaring outer skin is appealing! Really??

1 Corinthians 4:7   For who makes you different from anyone else? What do you have that you did not receive? And if you did receive it, why do you boast as though you did not receive it? 

In reality it all stems from being prepared for the next attack, the next attempt by someone to hone in on our territory.  I'll show them!!

The Bible does carry with it; ways of communicating, ways to disagree nicely but firmly, and solid ways of leadership that win others over, rather than beating them down to defeat. Only problem is, you say you don't have time to read it.  That's a missed opportunity!

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Trickery

Being tricked does not feel good, but truth be told, every person with a bad habit, hang-up, or addiction, is being tricked daily, hourly, minute by minute.  That's what keeps you doing what you are doing.  If you hate your disorder then you are believing the lie that is keeping you there.

Maybe you don't believe you're worth anything, or you think your habit is actually good for you, or you can't see a way out, or you've given up trying, Jesus Christ thinks you are cool but just a bit messed up right now.  Whatever the reason you have, it is the perfect lie that you are continuing to believe.  God deals harshly with lies, but also heals those afflicted by them.

3 John 11  ".....Anyone who does what is evil has not seen God."

Making a physical choice to step out of your situation and step toward God is a solid first choice and a big one, especially if you can't trust anyone.  Despite what others say, God would much rather see you healed His way, rather than you to see you perish your way.

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Secret

Secrets cannot be kept if we:

• don't have control of our tongue.
• don't care for others feelings.
• are trying to please others.
• have no self worth.
• are malicious.
• are envious.
• hate.

Secrets should not be kept if it:

• is greedy
• is self-serving
• deceives others
• degrades others
• destroys reputations
• is scheming in nature
• is filled with hatred for another

Matthew 6:6  But when you pray, go into your room, close the door and pray to your Father, who is unseen. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you.

Secrets are either black or white as the heart is either good or evil.  Sometimes we may not know the difference!

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Acceptance

It's required by all of us in order to be a whole person.  As much as we would like to shut ourself off from the world and the negative vibe that keeps us recoiling every time we hear it, from a healthy mind standpoint it's dangerous. 

It's funny but if we put others first in our thinking then the image we build of what's going on around us changes.  We start to see others that are hurting and lashing out because they can't handle the stress in their life.  They are just as confused as we are at times, and we happen to be in the place when they let it out.

Luke 6:35-36 But love your enemies, do good to them, and lend to them without expecting to get anything back. Then your reward will be great, and you will be children of the Most High, because he is kind to the ungrateful and wicked. ³⁶ Be merciful, just as your Father is merciful.

What we need to do is change our thinking to one of concern for others, then our problems start to minimize.  Maybe you are just the person they need to talk to at that moment.  Interesting!!

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Negativity

αρνητική  Ever have someone walk into the room and everyone cringes because of the negativity about to ensue?  Or maybe that's you?  Negativity is the result of unresolved hurt! 

People who don't harbor a grudge, who don't have a bad conscience, and are willing to talk openly about their problems very rarely have a reason to be negative.  Bottling up that hurt only creates pressure that will blow eventually.  It comes out in anger, envy, and all sorts of childish behaviours.  It causes us to gossip, slander, hate, and play tricks on people.  Devious thinking that causes us to cheer when someone fails.  It's hard to even be around them!!!

But someone who brings high spirits and good news into the room, then our spirits are lifted and we don't feel so bad.  Or we hate them for being so happy, because we know we can't be like that.

Romans 10:15  . . . . “How beautiful are the feet of those who bring good news!”

Life can be difficult enough without negative people in it.  Why not try being positive for one day?  It may seem weird at first but over time you do feel much better about life.  Try it!!

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