Communication

Have you watched someones conversation with others when they don't know you are watching and wondered what they were talking about?  Might seem weird but it is enlightening.  You can actually tell quite a bit about the conversation by way of mannerism, stance, if they are looking at each other, or only one to another.  Some people have no hearing and they hone this ability to silently read conversations to somewhat amazing accuracy.  They can describe the basis of the story, feelings, and the thoughts of the people.

Our mannerisms as Christians speak volumes to those who do not yet believe in a higher power.  Half-hearted attempts at playing Christian only leave bad results.  Truth is the only element that rubs out all negative attributes, because you can't be truthful and sin at the same time.  Jesus said that if we follow His words then, in John 8:32, " Then you will know the truth and the truth will set you free".

In order to be set free we need to communicate with others by acting more like Jesus and all good things will flood in...as long as we believe it in our heart.

Why not start some new good clean habits today?

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perception

3 people witness a hit and run accident. All 3 have valuable details, but all argue on the color of the car, license plate, and direction of travel.  Probably the most important facts.

Trauma distorts our thinking and perception of things. What we daily carry around with us emotionally shades what we actually see.  Our brain is busy sorting the garbage we feel is important and when new unexpected information comes in it's jumbled, not unlike a computer when the hard drive is full.  Our brain is so full with problems, then a constant bombarment of info we can't handle and we crash.

That's when addictions seep in.  It's easier to block out the world than it is to deal with the info.  If we could only learn that talking with someone and releasing our burdens helps free up our mind to handle other info, other than just our own dilemas. It's called freedom.

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Deserving

Maybe you have been told that you deserve what you get! This is mostly taken in a negative context; if we do bad things then we deserve it when bad things happen to us.  Someone taking revenge on us because we made a mistake is something we don't deserve.  If we have followed God's plan and taken all steps to rectify our mistake then we deserve respect, compassion, and most of all, Grace. 

The problem is we can't really expect to receive it because most people have never received it either.  The world has it's own mold of justice and it is a mirror opposite of what God offers through Jesus Christ.  The Bible says we are forgiven through Christ giving His life for us.  So that means revenge is someone elses sickness, not ours.  They give us revenge, but we can give Grace. (if we choose to)

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Time Sensitive

When is the best time to do something about the thoughts we have in our head.  About the way we have treated others: have we been rude, insensitive, mean, vendictive, gossiped, cheated, lied, hurt them physically, emotionally, or sexually?  Have we been distant, uncaring, avoiding, slandering, plotting against them, hoping for their downfall, stolen from them, or gotten even, etc? 

We may feel justified based on what they did to us as well, having a sense of accomplishment through revenge or just desserts served.  Careful...the Bible says that we can't be forgiven if we can't forgive.

 What we vengefully do to others may anger God more than what they did to us and God may choose their side to further punish us!!  God says forgive and that judgement is His business, not ours.  So the time to correct this thinking is now, before we get into it so deep that we can't get out!!

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Worthy

When we think of ourself as less than others, or just unworthy, then we are calling God a liar.  The Bible tells us that we are the image of God and that we are blessed with a uniqueness all our own??

Sooo... if thats true, then how can we be both His image and individually unique?  Complicated question!!  If we do not possess His image, then we are falible and if we don't view ourself as unique, then we are disposable.  See how easy it is to believe that we are unworthy?  STOP IT!!

We need to stop connecting the bad things that we choose to do and stop listening to others tell us how bad we are, and separate that with who we really are in God's eyes.  God doesn't make mistakes; so stop your addiction for one minute and absorbe His love and believe you are worthy, but you're just making a mistake right now!!  We can choose to change that!!

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Disappointment

If all we do in life is seek pleasure and enjoyment, then we are susceptible to addictive behaviors.  Why?  Because we don't know how to handle disappointment, let-down, failure, and being denied!  By only seeking pleasure we trian ourselves to run from hurt, and when it hurts too bad then we may need a little something to help us through that negative time.  This becomes a really bad habit over time and part of our lifestyle.

We need to look at every situation in life as a "happening".  If we don't try to make sense of the bad times then we will try to cover it over with something that makes us feel pleasant.  Do that once and it's a temporary remedy to help us learn from this bad time, but do that everytime and it is a full blown addiction.

We have to learn that disappointment is an opportunity to expand our thinking, not to think we need something to help us through it.

Why not start some new good clean habits today?



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Spiritual Addiction

Happens when we are disconnected from God.  We place other things higher than God, fooling ourself into believing modified doctrines.  Pining after someone or thing, lusting after money, our entire focus is directed on how to get it that we wind up ignoring God, so we build an idol that is no smarter than us.

So believe it or not, ALL addictions are spiritual.  When we step out of the protective cover of God's grace then we are open to every evil intention that is designed to convince us to believe religious topics and facts instead of relying on God's grace.  Our thoughts become the idol in our mind, because we refuse to search it out in God's word.  We give control of our life to . . ."something". . .  in the darkness.

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