Did you hear about so-n'-so?

Ever notice how our own sins don't seem as bad as other peoples? Hearing stories about people makes it easy for us to jump in to the carnage of trashing other people.  I guess it takes the focus off of our own failings, so its kind of a security blanket to protect ourselves.  We don't really stop to think about the effect we have on others in the midst of this, we just know that they are not talking about us at this point in time.  Not a very healing moment is it?

Self-help groups like Celebrate Recovery and Life's Healing Choices help us to focus the attention on ourselves and find true healing for our own hurts, failings, & transgressions.  Now that's a true healing moment!

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Cold Hard Facts

We spend our entire life trying to figure life out.  What makes people tick and what sends them and us into orbit.  We all like to think of ourself as a good person and usually see ourselves doing right.  We can forgive our own quirks and failings, but its a different story when it comes to forgiving others.  With our own quirks we find ways of expaining our misgivings to make our actions seem more palitable and reason our way through and soften the edges of our trangressions, but with others we only use cold hard facts about what they did and said.  All the nice explainations are gone and the plausible reasons no longer exist.  Why the unfair imbalance?

Self-help groups like Celebrate Recovery and Life's Healing Choices try to put us all on the same page and give us a correct view of looking at ourselves and others equally.

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Hiding Place

Some place where the world can't see you cry or writhe in uncomfortable situations.  A place where our mask is greater than our self worth. Where our pride trumps everything.  A time when the value of anything is less, than us saving face or maintaining our standing in our peer group.  We can physically lock ourself away or find a comfortable addiction that makes us look smart.

People will suffer because of our pent up anger, our lashing tongue, and what seems that we don't care about anything or anyone because of the things we say and do.

Being in a place like that allows us to act like a rabid Pitbull whenever we are challenged with good, or our actions called into question.  It's like our nerve endings are exposed.

Self-Help groups like Celebrate Recovery and Life's Healing Choices help us to see what we really look like when we are deceived beyond our reality; basically what other people see.

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Co-Dependency

Interesting word and mostly misunderstood.  It's on a scale of:
1/ mentally having the insatiable desire to be with someone who abuses you - to -
2/ saying and doing things that are out of character to gain the acknowledgement of others.

It's a hard road to be, or feel unloved & unwanted.  To think that your contributions don't matter, or that your presence is insignificant.  However, when you give people what they want and do things that allow other people to take notice of you, then it feels good.

Addiction has many faces and none of them are pretty, but that doesn't stop us from making ourselves ugly just so people will notice us.

Self help groups like Celebrate Recovery & Life's Healing Choices teach us how to pull the masks off and be comfortable with just our self.

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Shunning

When someone does something that offends you, how do we, and should we respond?  If we are more uncontrolled we could blow up at them. If we are more passive we could avoid them.  If we are afraid of them we could shun them.  If we are more ignorant then we could gossip about them.  Or a combination of all the above.  Really?  It happens more than you can imagine, and in every workplace, religious institution, family, marriage, & organization.  None are spared as revenge is rampant!  The person who offends innocently or what seems maliciously is an easy target.  The person who avenges in secret is filled with bitterness, fear, envy, and unforgiveness.

The Bible is clear when it says to; "go to your offender and try to clear the air by making your misgivings know to them".  Oh it also says "don't forget about the plank in your own eye".

Self Help groups like Celebrate Recovery & Life's Healing Choices help us to gain the confidence and wisdom to approach our offenders with the healing touch that Christ gives us, but only if we ask for it!

   Join us for our Easter Celebration
                          this Wednesday April 16, 2014 at 6:15 pm.

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Getting Even

We've all done things to others that gets them into a riled state, and they've responded in kind by getting even with us.  To hurt us so we know not to mess with them in the future.  Maybe you've gotten even with someone because of something they did to you.  An "eye for and eye" kind of thinking.

What if it was an accident?  What if the person doesn't even know they did something wrong or its a vicious rumor and we get even with them anyway?  The whole problem with this thinking is that we are supposed to go to the person first and bring their transgression to their attention.  If they refuse to acknowledge or make good their mistake then the "eye for an eye" rule takes place.  Society has forgotten to "speak to the person who wronged you first and work it out".

Self-help groups like Celebrate Recovery & Life's Healing Choices teach us to get over our anger and start a meaningful conversation with someone no matter what they've done or we have perpetrated.

PS: (by the way, getting even is a short term fix for us much like any other disorder.  It's the opposite of forgiveness)

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Your next choice

If you have a desperate or defeated mind, decisions made in that moment of passion will alter yours or someone else s life forever.  It's a time when we should be counting to 10 and coaxing ourselves to relax, but instead we fall victim to our own selfish desires to try to calm our feelings in a mechanical way with; bullying, drugs, alcohol, sex, theft, eating disorders, lying, etc.  But the worst thing we can do is try to coax others down to our deplorable state so we don't feel alone.

It seems that being alone amplifies our feelings of despair!!  Perhaps that's why Jesus spent 40 days in the desert, to root these things out so it no longer has any power over us.  That's the power of fasting!!

Self-help groups like Celebrate Recovery and Life's Healing Choices help us to recognize circumstances that we may be blind to in ourselves.

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Why not start some new good clean habits today?



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