He Said She Said

Why do we put so much emphasis on conversations like this?  We hear information about some one and we just have to repeat it.  Most of the time it is just making conversation, but why do we feel we need to make that conversation in the first place?  Either feelings of importance are the focus or we are uncomfortable with silence.  Either way we are simply uncomfortable with ourself.  We need to put on a friendly face, or we need people to look at us with awe.

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There's another side to this as well!  If someone says something innocent about a person, we can quickly run to the other person and report it to them in an honest or dishonest fashion.  This way we can win friends by ratting them out and gaining acceptance.  We just can't accept ourselves without the acceptance of another.

 

Self Help groups like Celebrate Recovery & Life's Healing Choices help us to find comfort in ourself so we don't need to speak about meaningless topics.

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I don't like you!

Not the nicest words to hear, but even harder to say sometimes!  A lot of times it's simply the way someone acts, how they've learned to behave, or where they grew up.  Most times it's not a personal slight to us at all but rather a miss-interpretation on our part to understand where this person is coming from.  Keeping a peaceful thought process helps take the edge off of our feelings.  If we calmly ask what they mean when they say something that offends us, we start to show interest in this person.  People pick up on our efforts to understand them and if we remain neutral, then we may just start to realize that we think somewhat alike with them.

Self Help groups like Celebrate Recovery & Life's Healing Choices help us to realize that if we stop putting ourselves first, then we can realize how we ourselves have been acting up until now!

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Tree of Life

Have you ever watched a large tree in a wind storm?  Notice how the leaves on the top and exterior of the tree receive the most abuse, being flipped, twisted, torn, and jostled around.  Those outer leaves also receive the first serious frost too, while the leaves inside the tree are protected by the outer layer of leaves.  

 

I find people are like those leaves.  The ones on top are the first to fall away, not because they have died but because they have changed.  They are still leaves but now they tell a story of experience, and have passed on the mantel to those leaves that were so long protected by the outer leaves.

Self-help Groups like Celebrate Recovery & Life's Healing Choices help us see what others have done for us, but only after we start giving to others, the way others gave to us first.

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Legal, Moral, & Ethical

We never question when someone who is really bad as to just how bad they really are, we just assume they could be worse than we could imagine.  We believe they have no limits to their debauchery, no compass of good within them, in our eyes anyway.  We tend to ignore the details in the situation in favor of the story itself.  Would you trust them?

On the other hand, we see people who are very reverent and upstanding, who live their lives according to the highest standard, and based on the history of those who fell we assume that they are all living a lie.  Do you trust them?  How would you know if they are true?

If a person lives a life respecting the laws of the land and of God, then they have good morals.  Their morals lead them to be ethical in all situations even when it's worst for them.  Their ethics lead their choices in life to do the right things when they are alone and noone else sees.  People can change!!

Self help groups like Celebrate Recovery and Life's Healing Choices give us an insiders view of living life "Legally, Morally, and Ethically.  You can begin to trust someone who displays those traits, but the proof is still a long term process!!  People can still fall.

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Too Many Beliefs

What you believe, is close to the truth!!  What you believe is the truth, is usually further from the truth and what we take as gospel without studying it is the furthest from the truth.  Relying on the interpretations of other on various beliefs is downright dangerous.  You wind up selecting the bits and pieces of many beliefs that appeal to you the most.  They make you feel warm inside, instead of facing the cold hard reality of our own individual worlds. This is a form of addiction: avoiding the truth and living in a pleasant make-believe-dream-world.  The only skill we learn that way is to avoid unpleasant people, places, and situations.  NO growth!!  The Seeker's sang: "The answer is blowing in the wind", much like us when we have no roots. Yes, spiritual people can have addictions!!

Self Help groups like Celebrate Recovery & Life's Healing Choices help us to focus on the true teachings in the Bible and how to apply those to our lives so we may grow.

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You Are Where You Are

Ever wonder why you are in situations you are in? Places of calm, distress, great loss, abundance, or indifference!  First off, it's how we view our situation!  Our mindset puts us in places where we may be opposite to where we really are. If we can't find any joy in the situation we are in, then our ideals may be off kilter with reality.  This leads us to make unrealistic choices based on our unrealistic beliefs. It's when we choose to do things that are complete opposite to the norm, simply because we believe it to be so.  We are where we are because we have a predesigned scenario in our head regardless of others feelings.  Or maybe God is using us to teach others, or more importantly, others to teach ourself.

Celebrate Recovery and Life's Healing Choices help us to see what reality is by giving us the tools to tap into others and our own feelings.

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Told You So

Those are usually the only nice words we receive after we have screwed up supremely in life.  We've let someone down, damaged reputations, caused strife, or physically or emotionally hurt someone. For the most part they are right so I guess there is really no nice way to eat crow but to just start chewing after it is shoved in our face.  Eating crow is to have our actions or words come back at us in a most negative way.  Things we've said or done wrong.

How come we never say "thank you for bringing my bad actions to my attention"?  Isn't it that simple? Yes we can apologize, but more importantly to say "thanks, I'll have to change my ways moving forward".

Self Help groups like Celebrate Recovery & Life's Healing Choices help us to realize what to say in embarrassing situations that we have created.

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